Today In Short : #14 – What Happens When You Don’t Look Your Age

Hi !

You all may wonder what happened to me all these days, well I took some time off to sort things in my head. As you might know, this blog is all about sharing good memories, opinions that make a difference, positivity and optimism. Since I was a little upset and messed up, I wasn’t sure if I could share happy thoughts with you all. All I could think of was sad poetry, bitter experiences, and melancholy. :-/ Hence, this short break from the blogosphere! 🙂

Well, now am so geared up and I am all set to share about something that happened to me today : What Happens When You Don’t Look Your Age. 

If you have read my previous post : 20 Facts About Me, you would know that I look too young for my age. Many times I’ve not been taken seriously in shops and malls as the shop keepers think I’m some school kid, just looking around all the colorful things in the store. :-/

So, here’s the story:

Today In Short : #14 - What Happens When You Don't Look Your Age

I started playing badminton with the guys of my neighborhood this week. Since am new to this area, none of them knew me and I made a bunch of new friends and acquaintances in a couple of days. At first the guys and the girls talked to me formally (if someone is new to you, you prefer formal speech to address them). All of them were about 5-6 years younger than me while some were even 10 years younger! Unfortunately, they all thought I was younger than most of them! The youngest batch thought I  would be of their age group and addressed me in informal speech!!

In case you don’t know, you might wonder what is so alarming about that. Well, in Asian languages, unlike English, it is very important to address a person in formal speech if they are older than you. It is considered very disrespectful otherwise. So I was taken aback a little and said, “dear, I’m about 10 years older than you”. Upon hearing that, there was utter silence in the crew for a moment which was then followed by huge gasps and “really?? are you?? I cant believe it!”…  Sigh!

Alright that’s not a big deal. I thought it’s okay, it happens..

So, I took a few steps for damage control. In order to avoid further misconceptions, I wore suitable clothing and hairstyle hoping that people would then believe am a little older. But then, what happened later, left me dumbstruck!

Today, my mom visited me while I was playing. She looks her age of course! As I was talking to one of the guys there, he said “yeah, why don’t you play with your Granny?Wait. What?? Did he just think that my mom is my granny? And for the love of God, did he just say it out loud?? 😮

When I said, she is not my granny, she is my mom, he said, “I thought you’re a high schooler and so I thought she might be your granny!” Duh :-/

For that, a girl sitting next to me (a high schooler) said Oh! Please don’t you worry, people often mistake my age too. At times kids address me as aunty, they think am very old! It hurt me that once I even cried a river!

Oh Goodness! I am dumbfounded. Now, am so confused if I should be happy that I don’t look old…

Have you had such experiences? Did you feel this way too? Do you think looks really matter? Or, is it okay to be perceived younger/older than your actual age? Feel free to share your opinions in the comment box below. 

Tomorrow I will be updating a new story for Story Time With A Difference. So stay tuned!

~ Yuvathi 🙂

The Confused Young Adult

I Wish I Had Done That…

Lately this has been a catch phrase that keeps going on and on in my head..

I wish I had done that…

I have done many stupid things, way too many blunders in this really short span of my life in this world. Stammered while giving an important speech in front of a huge audience, wore ridiculous outfits for the school annual-day’s play, forgot the lyrics of the song while singing on stage, danced like a lunatic in the classroom – not realizing that my teacher was standing right behind me, bunked many math classes because I loathed it, dated a nice guy although I knew it wouldn’t work out, tried learning to dance – Bharata Natyam only to fail terribly, spoiled some fine fabric in the name of embroidery,…ahhh..the list is endless.

But do I regret any of it? No, not at all!

I regret only the things that I didn’t do.

I have heard of that phrase a lot, but it never made sense to me when I was younger. But now I wonder how I missed out on trying different things. I wish I had the chance to think out of the box. I feel like I spent most of my time on academics, learning a few new things and playing. Although I don’t regret them either. I just wish I had done a lot more than just that.

I Wish I Had Done That...

I resigned my MNC job for some good reasons and I have taken up a few other activities. When I told people that I resigned, they were shocked. At first that scared me as I thought I made a huge blunder and messed up my life for good! But now that I rethink, it all seems to be a blessing in disguise. Being young and having the time to re-think your decisions and making your life the way you want is a once-in-a-lifetime-opportunity. Right? 🙂

I’m trying to make the best out of all the opportunities I’ve got. Even if it meant failing terribly and wondering “aahh..I did something so stupid all over again!”, I’m just going to try it all. I already did a few stuff that I found really amusing. I failed in a couple of gigs too, but I learnt a lot out of them. I don’t regret it.

Just Follow Your Heart

Yes, that’s what I’ve been thinking lately..

There is no more space for regret. There is no more time to waste. Woah! Feels like am in a movie. Would life change all at once with one song?? 😀

Is it possible to live a regret-free life? Will I be glad that I did everything I ever could Or, Will I Still Regret In Future Saying… “Aah.. I Wish I Had Done That…”?

Do you feel the same way about your life? Or do you have a different perspective? Feel free to share your opinions in the comment box below or just spend a couple more minutes to ponder… 🙂

Confused As Always,

~ Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

The Confused Young Adult