If You Can’t Keep A Secret, Don’t Expect Others To Keep It As Well!

How many times have you told someone your heart’s closest secret or a personal story in the belief that they will keep it a secret too?

And in that, how many times have you been shattered when they broke your trust?

you Can't Keep A Secret, Don't Expect Others To Keep It As Well!

This happens to almost everyone.

It has happened tons of times to me too! Mostly, I trusted the wrong person all through the year, quite oblivious of the fact that every word of all the secrets I shared was known to everyone around me!

Well, just like all humans I was torn apart when I got to know about it. I thought I was stupid for being so naive. For some time, I lost my belief in true friendship and trust.

But we just can’t stop trusting people.. Right?

Life is a matter of faith and belief after all..

If we trust we get hurt.

If we don’t trust, then there is no point in living at all!

So then, how can we prevent ourselves from getting hurt?

Here’s is a simple solution :

1. Stop being a drama queen!

Every time I tell something confidential, personal or a seemingly secretive information to someone, I always keep in mind of the vicious probability.

Yes, the probability that someday I will receive the very same information – a highly exaggerated version of the same matter from some random stranger!

This can help you to remain calm and not create a ruckus when the situation gets out of hand! You are mentally prepared for it. So it won’t damage you emotionally!

2. DON’T use the same old dialogue

“Please don’t tell anyone else. Let this be between us”

Yeah, you know why? That’s because the moment you tell someone NOT to think about a monkey — they can think of Nothing Else but a Monkey!!! So just don’t do it. Instead analyse if you are okay with the vicious probability. If you think you are not prepared, then simply keep your mouth shut!

If You Can’t Keep A Secret,
Don’t Expect Others To Keep It As Well!

The Why’s, What’s, When’s and How’s That Trouble Our Hearts..

As I sat wondering about all the broken relationships, long lost friends, heartaches and heartbreaks, my mind got cluttered with a million questions. The more I thought, the heavier they got!

I thought I should jot them down and ask the world in an Open Letter…..

Do you feel the same way too?

The Why's, What's, When's and How's That Trouble Our Hearts..

Why is it difficult to trust whole heartedly and love unconditionally?

What stops people from shedding their masks and be their true selves? 

How many times can one be hurt and yet stay strong and positive for more?

When can we laugh our heart out without worrying about losing this wonderful moment?

What does it take to make someone believe in love, friendship, themselves, ourselves and the world around?

When, Why and How does a lovely relationship get crushed into nothing?

Why is it so difficult to believe all over again after getting hurt?

What is life without expectations?

Why so many expectations when it leaves behind only disappointments..?

How much is too much?

Am pretty sure, we all can answer every one of the questions above. I too can write an entire page on each of them as well.

But how practically true to the heart could they really be?

It is easier to say a lot of things than do them in real life..

Am I wrong?

I could only wish that we all live our lives peacefully without all the Why’s, What’s, When’s and How’s That Trouble Our Hearts..

Now tell me, Do You Feel The Same Way Too?

Sincerely,

 THE Confused Young Adult

Doubt : The Killer Of Joy Or The Birth Of Freedom and Knowledge?

April A-Z Blogging – Day 4 : ‘D’

During my schooldays, after very lecture, our teacher would wait for us to ask her questions, some doubt regarding the concepts that were taught. Doubts meant “you understood something”. Funny, but true. Children with lots of doubts were considered intelligent and inquisitive to learn. You should have a million doubts so that you will learn a million new things!

Interesting! isn’t it? But for how long does it remain true?

Doubt : The Killer Of Joy Or The Birth Of Freedom and Knowledge?
Doubt : The Killer Of Joy Or The Birth Of Freedom and Knowledge?

Every nice word and aspect of life starts to show it’s ugly side as we grow up. When we are young we learn to make friends, as we grow we learn to understand enemies and frenemies. The words fun, happiness and peace diminish to show their ugly twins.

So does “doubt”. The very basic thought that helped us understand things in the universe and beyond the universe, make us to doubt some of the most beautiful of aspects of life too. It slowly starts to break down the tiny little blocks of faith and trust with which we built our castle called life, destroying every little space we had left for ventilation only to suffocate ourselves.

Doubts are good as long as they give a productive result. But….

When was the last time you doubted your friend?

When was the last time you doubted your love?

When was the last time you doubted yourself?

The sense of doubt is like walking on a tight rope. The more you doubt, the rope gets higher and weaker. When you think you could no longer believe in yourself/someone, the rope breaks only to drop you hard from the great heights.

Sometimes I feel so lost and directionless. I feel like a loser. I doubt my ability to achieve. I wonder if I’ll ever make it. But every single time, when this terrible thought knocks my head, I shake it back by reminding myself about the fact that “I’m born for a reason, and I’m going to make it.”

So, the next time when you are in doubt, ask yourself, “Do I really have to suffocate myself or should I take a leap of faith?”

After all life is all about making the best of now for dreaming a better future! 🙂

~ Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

The Confused Young Adult