Remember, You Are A Human. Not A Doormat!

Being the Yes-Man might make you think you are the nicest person in the world. People would often look up to you and depend on you for anything and everything. You may think you hold on to a special space in people’s hearts. But let me tell you one thing…

The Doormat Is Never Given Special Attention.

Only when it goes missing;

People know the dirt in their shoes. And the amount of dirt they have been carrying all this time.

Saying “NO” will not make you a bad person. It only highlights your privilege, self esteem and adds dignity to your existence.

The more you say “YES”, the more people will take advantage of you. They will take you and your favor for granted. It’s not your fault — people all around the world are just like that by default!

Just like how man misuses nature and her offerings and services; takes her for granted despite the fact that she gives them all for free; he would misuse your favors too!

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You need not say NO for everything as well. Learn to prioritize. First yourself then the others.

When you say No, if they get offended as say “What personal business? You did it all these days..Can’t you….bla bla” then understand that they were just using you all this time and you’ve been their Doormat!

If they understand and if they have been grateful, they will smile without any hesitation and say “alright! No probs!”. They will understand and respect your personal space.

Next time when someone asks to get their “Regular Coffee” on your way to office, tell them “NO, I can’t because I need to take care of some personal business”.

When someone asks you for your password, tell them “NO, It is called password for a reason. I can’t share it with you”.

Next time when your colleague asks you to finish their part of work like you always do because they would like to hang out with their friends, tell them “NO, I can’t. Because I have my own stack of work to complete!”

If your roommate says some excuse as usual to escape from sharing the workload while preparing the dinner, tell her “NO, I can’t cook either. Let’s eat out and go Dutch for the bills!”

Learn To Say NO.
It’s NOW or NEVER.

Remember, You Are A Human.
Not A Doormat!

~Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

–The Confused Young Adult

5 Simple Things We All Secretly Wish For..

Every human has a million desires. But there are a few simple things that we all wish for. There are certain things that can’t be changed. They are not rules made by the government. They are not laws laid out on paper. They exist since time immemorial. Our lives are wound around these principles. Some we wish we could do, while some we all wish to change, but never could and never will. Why? Oh, I wish I knew..

Here are the 5 simple things we all wish for..

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1. To say what we have in our minds without any fear of being misunderstood

Every single person in this world is afraid of being misunderstood. When you talk to a person of interest or of great importance, say, your boss, your spouse or your crush, you tend to be overly conscious about your choice of words. Certain things should be spoken, and words once uttered can not be taken back. If those words are mistaken, it becomes totally impossible to clear the mess.

Everyday we meet so many people who are a total nuisance to the society. They are irksome, parasitic and some are pests we would love to shoo away. Even their mere presence would be so annoying. Well, Can you say it out loud? oh..you wish! 😀

Yeah, I wish I could tell the guy sitting next to me that he is so hot! Can I? Nope. 😛

2. To have relationships without conflicts

Now that’s a Bingo!

There are many situations where we wish we could go back in time and tell ourselves not to blurt out those terrible words and lose that one lovely person from our life. We wish we took time before we misjudged, talked back and spoiled a beautiful relationship. Relationships are like glass; once broken, they can never be the same. Sometimes these conflicts shatter them into pieces that can never be put back together.. 😦

How awesome would it be if we never had any conflicts with our loved ones! 

3. To not bother about what the other person is thinking

You may say you don’t care, but am sure, in some corner of your mind you are wondering what the other person is thinking. Sometimes even when you see some random stranger staring at you in the bus, you wonder, what is he thinking?? why is he staring!! Is it my new hair cut? or is it my tattered old T-shirt??

Before we do something, even if our heart says “go for it”, we think twice and wonder a million times about what others might say. If we don’t think before, then we “worry” a million times after doing it 😛 Why should we worry about others’ opinions? Why does it bother us so much? Well, we wish we could stop but we never can and never will.

Whenever some one says “I don’t care”, trust me, they actually do. 😉

4. To end the power play

Nowadays power, money and influence alone can get a work done. Sheer talent and hard work can’t take you anywhere. It works only for one in a million. You have to be “somebody” or you should have contacts with “somebody” to have your voice heard. :-/ Every common man would have faced such a situation in life and would have been frustrated by these power plays at some point of time or the other. Can anything be done about this?

Can we end this? Oh, I wish… 

5. To respect a person for what he IS & not for what he HAS

The most important of all, the one thing we all wish for the most… To be respected for what we are and not for what we have. People with name and fame are thrown away once they lose it. Some stick to you for your money while some stay with you because you are famous. Only a very few remain with you forever for what you are. This is a universal-sad-ugly truth.

Why can’t people love you and not your things? Oh, I wish I knew… 😦