I Wish I Had Done That…

Lately this has been a catch phrase that keeps going on and on in my head..

I wish I had done that…

I have done many stupid things, way too many blunders in this really short span of my life in this world. Stammered while giving an important speech in front of a huge audience, wore ridiculous outfits for the school annual-day’s play, forgot the lyrics of the song while singing on stage, danced like a lunatic in the classroom – not realizing that my teacher was standing right behind me, bunked many math classes because I loathed it, dated a nice guy although I knew it wouldn’t work out, tried learning to dance – Bharata Natyam only to fail terribly, spoiled some fine fabric in the name of embroidery,…ahhh..the list is endless.

But do I regret any of it? No, not at all!

I regret only the things that I didn’t do.

I have heard of that phrase a lot, but it never made sense to me when I was younger. But now I wonder how I missed out on trying different things. I wish I had the chance to think out of the box. I feel like I spent most of my time on academics, learning a few new things and playing. Although I don’t regret them either. I just wish I had done a lot more than just that.

I Wish I Had Done That...

I resigned my MNC job for some good reasons and I have taken up a few other activities. When I told people that I resigned, they were shocked. At first that scared me as I thought I made a huge blunder and messed up my life for good! But now that I rethink, it all seems to be a blessing in disguise. Being young and having the time to re-think your decisions and making your life the way you want is a once-in-a-lifetime-opportunity. Right? 🙂

I’m trying to make the best out of all the opportunities I’ve got. Even if it meant failing terribly and wondering “aahh..I did something so stupid all over again!”, I’m just going to try it all. I already did a few stuff that I found really amusing. I failed in a couple of gigs too, but I learnt a lot out of them. I don’t regret it.

Just Follow Your Heart

Yes, that’s what I’ve been thinking lately..

There is no more space for regret. There is no more time to waste. Woah! Feels like am in a movie. Would life change all at once with one song?? 😀

Is it possible to live a regret-free life? Will I be glad that I did everything I ever could Or, Will I Still Regret In Future Saying… “Aah.. I Wish I Had Done That…”?

Do you feel the same way about your life? Or do you have a different perspective? Feel free to share your opinions in the comment box below or just spend a couple more minutes to ponder… 🙂

Confused As Always,

~ Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

The Confused Young Adult

What Do You Do To Avoid Doing/Saying Mean Things When You Are Angry?

Most of us make the biggest of blunders when we are angry. The recent incident about a girl littering her boyfriend’s car with sanitary pads is one of the craziest news I have ever read on the internet. She thought he was having an affair, while he was actually out – planning a surprise birthday party for her. Oh dear… :-/

This reminds me of a wonderful adage that my mother often states in our mother tongue:

An Angry Man Is Never Smart.

How often have you done something miserable out of utter rage and regretted it? How many times did you wish you never said those words to your dear ones? How badly have you hurt your loved ones with your angry meaningless words and deeds and hated yourself forever?

What Do You Do To Avoid Doing/Saying Mean Things When You Are Angry?
What Do You Do To Avoid Doing/Saying Mean Things When You Are Angry?

Once the damage is done; the relationship is never the same. You may patch up, but there is always the scar.

How can you avoid this? Prevention is better then cure. But nobody is Jesus Christ or Mahatma Gandhi. We all do have our temper and limits. I can’t tell you not to get angry. But one can always learn to manage the situation and handle the temper.

Here are some of the healthy ways that I have heard of / follow myself.

  • Some have the habit of drinking several glasses of water when they are angry. That’s one of the healthiest ways I would suggest. It cools you down physically as well as mentally. It also doesn’t give you the opportunity to say mean things because you are busy gulping down the water!
  • Take a shower or shut the door and take a nap. Now, that’s my favorite! A nap might sound like a difficult idea, but it does wonders. It helps the brain to relax and gives piece of mind. It creates the space to re-think as the heat of the moment is gone and you get to analyze the situation in a different light!
  • Write down all those words in your journal or on a piece of paper, and destroy – burn/shred it later. Yes, I do that when am about to lose my temper. I have a separate notebook where I pour my heart out when am upset. Most of the times, when I re-read those words, I feel so glad that I didn’t carelessly utter them. Remember, destroying it is very important. You don’t want the other person to read it by chance! You don’t want those mean words around you either.
  • Go for a long drive or a walk. If you can’t stay in the same space as the other person, you can always walk away for sometime and come back when your mind is clear.

Some of the important DONT’S!

  • Never ever post things on social networking sites when you are mad. Moreover, advertising your meanness is also not a great idea. It might be a way to get back at the other person or might seem like an outlet for you, but for the world it would be “popcorn time“!
  • Do not blog about it either. Even if you write one, do not publish it immediately. Come back after a day or two. You might thank yourself for not publishing it! ( I have trashed a few drafts myself!)
  • Don’t go and grumble all the details to a third person and create a chaos. It is not going to help you in any way. Drama should be on stage. Not in real life!
  • Do not text, call, e-mail that person right away. Once you hit the send button, it is over and done! So stay away from communication tech and apps until you calm down.

Those are some of my favorite ideas. Do you have any other interesting ways to avoid doing/saying mean things when you are angry? 

Feel free to share them in the comment box below! 🙂

~ Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

The Confused Young Adult

Today In Short : #4 Enjoy – Without Regrets and Guilt

Regrets and Guilt are two words that are ruling my life right now.

I regret the fact that I couldn’t control things from happening the way they did. I feel guilty for not having been able to do what I intended to. I regret missing some of the best opportunities and feel guilty for not being able to fill the shoes that I am supposed to. Can I change any of that? No. It’s all in the past and there is no point in guilt or regret.

Every time I watch a movie, my conscience pricks me, reminding me about the fact that I haven’t finished my work yet. Those actors have done their work. That’s their work. And they may be working right now as well. What am I doing ??

So I switch back to work. Once am at my desk, I immediately start contemplating my situation, regretting the fact that I missed such a nice movie!!

Somehow or the other I end up working, missing all the possible fun. Most of the time is wasted on the contemplation rather than on actual work.

I felt like I was being throttled with work, other responsibilities especially because of my very own vacillating mind.

Argh. Not anymore. Am done with it. I want some “ME” time.

regrets and guilt

Note: Am a Korean fanatic. 😀

I decided to enjoy my day in my own way! Yes, without guilt, without any regrets, I did. Whole day, I watched Korean dramas Goong and Coffee Prince and the latest episode of the currently airing favorite Korean Drama Pinocchio, which is a major hit (ofcourse, with English subtitles ) and drooled over some of EXO’s wonderful KPop music videos, dreaming all the way about Kai and his dance moves. Ohhhh Gaawwwddd!!!!

I wanted a break and so I DID. I took the day off. I watched all Korean dramas and music videos, went out for a walk, ate all kinds of junk food and chocolates, downloaded wallpapers of Lee Min Ho and Lee Jong Suk, Kai, Jung Yong Hwa..the day is not enough at all.

A much needed break at the right time. I feel so good after all. But yes, every fairy tale has to come to an end. So, before my ever-changing-mind starts feeling guilty, I shut the doorway to dreamland and descended back to the real world.

So here I am, sitting in front of my desk, working without any regrets since an hour. But what am I doing right now while am actually supposed to be finishing my work on some random file and report to some random client living in some other part of the world??

Blogging! Yes 🙂

I thought I must tell you guys too, to take a break and live your life for a day without regrets, without guilt. Sometimes you deserve it after all you’ve been through. Sometimes it is good to have a dreamland and relish the fantasies.

Alright people, it’s time for me to get back to work. Who wants their manager to call up and say “Didn’t you submit the file yet??” Oh! Not me 😉 😀