Remember, You Are A Human. Not A Doormat!

Being the Yes-Man might make you think you are the nicest person in the world. People would often look up to you and depend on you for anything and everything. You may think you hold on to a special space in people’s hearts. But let me tell you one thing…

The Doormat Is Never Given Special Attention.

Only when it goes missing;

People know the dirt in their shoes. And the amount of dirt they have been carrying all this time.

Saying “NO” will not make you a bad person. It only highlights your privilege, self esteem and adds dignity to your existence.

The more you say “YES”, the more people will take advantage of you. They will take you and your favor for granted. It’s not your fault — people all around the world are just like that by default!

Just like how man misuses nature and her offerings and services; takes her for granted despite the fact that she gives them all for free; he would misuse your favors too!

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You need not say NO for everything as well. Learn to prioritize. First yourself then the others.

When you say No, if they get offended as say “What personal business? You did it all these days..Can’t you….bla bla” then understand that they were just using you all this time and you’ve been their Doormat!

If they understand and if they have been grateful, they will smile without any hesitation and say “alright! No probs!”. They will understand and respect your personal space.

Next time when someone asks to get their “Regular Coffee” on your way to office, tell them “NO, I can’t because I need to take care of some personal business”.

When someone asks you for your password, tell them “NO, It is called password for a reason. I can’t share it with you”.

Next time when your colleague asks you to finish their part of work like you always do because they would like to hang out with their friends, tell them “NO, I can’t. Because I have my own stack of work to complete!”

If your roommate says some excuse as usual to escape from sharing the workload while preparing the dinner, tell her “NO, I can’t cook either. Let’s eat out and go Dutch for the bills!”

Learn To Say NO.
It’s NOW or NEVER.

Remember, You Are A Human.
Not A Doormat!

~Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

–The Confused Young Adult

Today In Short : #15 – Nothing Beats A Tattered Old T-Shirt!

Do you own a really old, discolored, tattered T-Shirt in your closet? That one T-shirt that you always wear, at home, for evening walks, friends meets, grocery shopping, when you’re happy, when you’re sad, when you’re on a holiday, or preparing for an interview, whatever you do, you prefer wearing only that? No matter how sorry you feel for it, even though your closet is full of bright fresh and new T-Shirts from several famous brands, you can’t let it go..

Is that true? Well, don’t worry! You’re not alone!

Nothing Beats A Tattered Old T-Shirt!
Nothing Beats A Tattered Old T-Shirt!

It is so comfortable, cosy, warm… You feel safe and so pleasant when you wear it and every time you do, your mom goes “Oh, please even a beggar has a better one!” and your friends be like “Dude! You’ve really got to do some serious shopping!“. Every time someone says that your heart bleeds, and you get all defensive, clutching your poor old and loyal T-Shirt and say “Heyyy..!! Don’t you say that!

But who cares? Our bond shall never be broken by such trivial comments.

My dear T-Shirt,

No matter how old you are, and how tattered you look, you will always be my most precious, invaluable treasure that these normal human beings can never understand. 

Well, if you found the above statements “weird“, let me tell you,

Dude, you’ve really got to do some serious shopping! Get yourself a “good” T-Shirt for life!!!!” 😉

~ Yuvathi ❤ 🙂