You all may wonder what happened to me all these days, well I took some time off to sort things in my head. As you might know, this blog is all about sharing good memories, opinions that make a difference, positivity and optimism. Since I was a little upset and messed up, I wasn’t sure if I could share happy thoughts with you all. All I could think of was sad poetry, bitter experiences, and melancholy. Hence, this short break from the blogosphere! 🙂
Well, now am so geared up and I am all set to share about something that happened to me today : What Happens When You Don’t Look Your Age.
If you have read my previous post : 20 Facts About Me, you would know that I look too young for my age. Many times I’ve not been taken seriously in shops and malls as the shop keepers think I’m some school kid, just looking around all the colorful things in the store.
So, here’s the story:
I started playing badminton with the guys of my neighborhood this week. Since am new to this area, none of them knew me and I made a bunch of new friends and acquaintances in a couple of days. At first the guys and the girls talked to me formally (if someone is new to you, you prefer formal speech to address them). All of them were about 5-6 years younger than me while some were even 10 years younger! Unfortunately, they all thought I was younger than most of them! The youngest batch thought I would be of their age group and addressed me in informal speech!!
In case you don’t know, you might wonder what is so alarming about that. Well, in Asian languages, unlike English, it is very important to address a person in formal speech if they are older than you. It is considered very disrespectful otherwise. So I was taken aback a little and said, “dear, I’m about 10 years older than you”. Upon hearing that, there was utter silence in the crew for a moment which was then followed by huge gasps and “really?? are you?? I cant believe it!”… Sigh!
Alright that’s not a big deal. I thought it’s okay, it happens..
So, I took a few steps for damage control. In order to avoid further misconceptions, I wore suitable clothing and hairstyle hoping that people would then believe am a little older. But then, what happened later, left me dumbstruck!
Today, my mom visited me while I was playing. She looks her age of course! As I was talking to one of the guys there, he said “yeah, why don’t you play with your Granny?” Wait. What?? Did he just think that my mom is my granny? And for the love of God, did he just say it out loud?? 😮
When I said, she is not my granny, she is my mom, he said, “I thought you’re a high schooler and so I thought she might be your granny!” Duh
For that, a girl sitting next to me (a high schooler) said “Oh! Please don’t you worry, people often mistake my age too. At times kids address me as aunty, they think am very old! It hurt me that once I even cried a river!“
Oh Goodness! I am dumbfounded. Now, am so confused if I should be happy that I don’t look old…
Have you had such experiences? Did you feel this way too? Do you think looks really matter? Or, is it okay to be perceived younger/older than your actual age? Feel free to share your opinions in the comment box below.
Tomorrow I will be updating a new story for Story Time With A Difference. So stay tuned!
~ Yuvathi ❤ 🙂
– The Confused Young Adult