4 Types Of Mean People And How To Handle Them

Today I was wondering, there are many different kinds of wonderful people in this world! But then I remembered another fact that one bad apple can spoil the entire barrel! Which made me think about the “types of mean people”! So, I made a list that categorizes mean people into 4 wide sub-categories and I have given a few practical and possible suggestions that can help you in handling them.

1. The Know-It-All

1. The Know-It-All

This is a bunch of people who think they know “EVERYTHING” and they believe that only their action/opinion/decision is right. Every one else in the world is wrong. You try to share something to your group, and they will be like “Oh yeah..that one? I know that.. that’s so out of date. We should probably try my suggestion!”, and make you look stupid. Or, when you say you don’t know something, their immediate loud reaction would be “Don’t you know even THAT??” and make you feel low and inferior right in front of your peers/colleagues.

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These people crave for attention and love to dominate. Make sure you give a solid point. Do not get crumpled just because they snubbed you once. People around you are also as frustrated and scared as you are because of that one person. Nobody’s going to judge as the others are also sailing on the same boat! Stand for yourself and don’t forget to make your point! You can do it!

2. Sarcastic Dumb-heads

2. Sarcastic Dumb-heads

Now this one, is the most annoying crowd of people who actually have nothing in their heads. But all they do is drop a sarcastic comment for everything you do/say. They are so good at passing mean comments that they can humiliate anybody regardless of their talents and knowledge. Most times, when you hear their comments, you go speechless that you don’t know how to respond to such heights of meanness. (Yes, not all can be great at witty puns).

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Remember they are “dumb-heads” and all they want is some acknowledgement by the crowd. Since they can’t get it, they try to destroy the ones that do! So, when you hear their comments, the best way to get back at them is to take the high road. The more you acknowledge their sarcasm, the more satisfied they will be. So do not ever care about their pathetic attempt. Do not look hurt. Do not react at all! If they are someone superior to you, you can’t just walk away, right? In such cases, smile at them politely (genuinely) and check their reactions. (trust me, it will be so awesome!!!!)

3. The Posh Plastics

3. The Posh Plastics

Have you seen the guys and girls who are filthy rich, have-it-all, who walk like ice sculptures and care about nobody? Yeah, that’s what I’m talking about. For them, only their happiness and comfort matters. Anybody else is nobody to them. It is like, people other than their crew is invisible to them. They are so plastic – “no sympathy, no empathy if you don’t belong to the category” is their motto. Cold and Heartless just like ice sculptures.

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Well, if you don’t belong to their ice-sculpture category, it means they don’t belong to yours either! You can be the fireball that you are! Who cares! If it is your workplace, just do what you are supposed to do, Don’t try to fit in as you will only be humiliated more and more. Do your duty and do not expect any acknowledgement or acceptance in their circle. Don’t take it to your heart. Because they can’t fit in your category either! Remember, they are ice-sculptures and you are a fireball!! 🙂

4. Overpowered Bullies

4. Overpowered Bullies

This set, exists almost everywhere! Overpowered can suggest power in many ways : talent, intelligence, physical strength, social strength, criminal mastermind,….” the list could go on forever. They are bullies! They pick on the weaker ones and feed on them. This set of people love to hold power on a person’s emotions. They need to have the monopoly in their area and they would do anything to get it right.

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Bullying is extremely dangerous and can harm a person physically as well as mentally. The best way to handle a bully is to walk away from them and do not do anything to provoke them. Be confident about yourself. Never ever let them play with your head and emotions. Remember, you are stronger than the bullies in your own way. If you think it is going beyond limits, report it and seek help from a member of authority. Do not delay!

Stay Strong. Be Kind.

Yuvathi

What Do You Do To Avoid Doing/Saying Mean Things When You Are Angry?

Most of us make the biggest of blunders when we are angry. The recent incident about a girl littering her boyfriend’s car with sanitary pads is one of the craziest news I have ever read on the internet. She thought he was having an affair, while he was actually out – planning a surprise birthday party for her. Oh dear… :-/

This reminds me of a wonderful adage that my mother often states in our mother tongue:

An Angry Man Is Never Smart.

How often have you done something miserable out of utter rage and regretted it? How many times did you wish you never said those words to your dear ones? How badly have you hurt your loved ones with your angry meaningless words and deeds and hated yourself forever?

What Do You Do To Avoid Doing/Saying Mean Things When You Are Angry?
What Do You Do To Avoid Doing/Saying Mean Things When You Are Angry?

Once the damage is done; the relationship is never the same. You may patch up, but there is always the scar.

How can you avoid this? Prevention is better then cure. But nobody is Jesus Christ or Mahatma Gandhi. We all do have our temper and limits. I can’t tell you not to get angry. But one can always learn to manage the situation and handle the temper.

Here are some of the healthy ways that I have heard of / follow myself.

  • Some have the habit of drinking several glasses of water when they are angry. That’s one of the healthiest ways I would suggest. It cools you down physically as well as mentally. It also doesn’t give you the opportunity to say mean things because you are busy gulping down the water!
  • Take a shower or shut the door and take a nap. Now, that’s my favorite! A nap might sound like a difficult idea, but it does wonders. It helps the brain to relax and gives piece of mind. It creates the space to re-think as the heat of the moment is gone and you get to analyze the situation in a different light!
  • Write down all those words in your journal or on a piece of paper, and destroy – burn/shred it later. Yes, I do that when am about to lose my temper. I have a separate notebook where I pour my heart out when am upset. Most of the times, when I re-read those words, I feel so glad that I didn’t carelessly utter them. Remember, destroying it is very important. You don’t want the other person to read it by chance! You don’t want those mean words around you either.
  • Go for a long drive or a walk. If you can’t stay in the same space as the other person, you can always walk away for sometime and come back when your mind is clear.

Some of the important DONT’S!

  • Never ever post things on social networking sites when you are mad. Moreover, advertising your meanness is also not a great idea. It might be a way to get back at the other person or might seem like an outlet for you, but for the world it would be “popcorn time“!
  • Do not blog about it either. Even if you write one, do not publish it immediately. Come back after a day or two. You might thank yourself for not publishing it! ( I have trashed a few drafts myself!)
  • Don’t go and grumble all the details to a third person and create a chaos. It is not going to help you in any way. Drama should be on stage. Not in real life!
  • Do not text, call, e-mail that person right away. Once you hit the send button, it is over and done! So stay away from communication tech and apps until you calm down.

Those are some of my favorite ideas. Do you have any other interesting ways to avoid doing/saying mean things when you are angry? 

Feel free to share them in the comment box below! 🙂

~ Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

The Confused Young Adult