Over-Possessiveness Can Kill A Relationship!

Being possessive is cute. Yes, when someone is possessive about you, you realize how much you mean to them. It shows you that they don’t want to lose you no matter what! Of course, that’s really sweet! Isn’t it?
But too much of anything is dangerous. It is definitely true when it comes to possessiveness too!

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Recently, I almost broke up with my best friend because he was too threatened by my interest for another guy! Yes, my best friend was feeling scared that he might lose me to my new “crush”. He was afraid that I wouldn’t spend time with him just because I thought this new guy was hot!

Woah….Right?

Who would ever stop spending time with their best friend! Actually, the best friend usually forms the support system. He is supposed to be the one helping me with the timing and catchy dialogues and stuff…right?

But that didn’t happen.

Instead he was so threatened and over-possessive that I lost interest on my new-found crush and had a bitter taste in my friendship too. I couldn’t take his constant nagging anymore. I almost broke up with my bestie! But anyway, we talked it all out and we are back together as BFF’s and my crush is seeing someone else now.. *Damn It*

So, here’s a request – small piece of advice from a victim of over-possessiveness to the rest of the world :

Caging a bird is never a good idea. The bird is meant to fly high and not to be strangled in a cage. The moment it finds a gap, it will definitely fly away!

Let it free, take good care and it will fly back to you because you are the home in this whole wide world.

If you love someone, it is okay to be possessive. But please have some confidence about your relationship! Understand that whoever has to stay, will definitely stay with you. If they don’t, then they were never meant to be!

Do not kill what you have because you’re too afraid of losing it. If you constantly fear..you will definitely lose it anyway! So, please take good care of what you have. Enjoy and love with all your heart!

Be the sweet home for your loved ones.
Don’t ever be a cruel cage.

Live and let live.
~Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

Haiku : Sweetheart, I Miss You So Bad..

Sweetheart, I Miss You So Bad..

~Yuvathi  🙂

– The Confused Young Adult

Haiku : Curtains Of My Heart

~Yuvathi  🙂

– The Confused Young Adult

The Why’s, What’s, When’s and How’s That Trouble Our Hearts..

As I sat wondering about all the broken relationships, long lost friends, heartaches and heartbreaks, my mind got cluttered with a million questions. The more I thought, the heavier they got!

I thought I should jot them down and ask the world in an Open Letter…..

Do you feel the same way too?

The Why's, What's, When's and How's That Trouble Our Hearts..

Why is it difficult to trust whole heartedly and love unconditionally?

What stops people from shedding their masks and be their true selves? 

How many times can one be hurt and yet stay strong and positive for more?

When can we laugh our heart out without worrying about losing this wonderful moment?

What does it take to make someone believe in love, friendship, themselves, ourselves and the world around?

When, Why and How does a lovely relationship get crushed into nothing?

Why is it so difficult to believe all over again after getting hurt?

What is life without expectations?

Why so many expectations when it leaves behind only disappointments..?

How much is too much?

Am pretty sure, we all can answer every one of the questions above. I too can write an entire page on each of them as well.

But how practically true to the heart could they really be?

It is easier to say a lot of things than do them in real life..

Am I wrong?

I could only wish that we all live our lives peacefully without all the Why’s, What’s, When’s and How’s That Trouble Our Hearts..

Now tell me, Do You Feel The Same Way Too?

Sincerely,

 THE Confused Young Adult

The Words Hidden In Your Smile..

The Words Hidden In Your Smile..

It hasn’t been long since the day we met,

We haven’t yet shared each other’s secrets;

When I saw you smile, I knew it,

You’re gonna be my side, I don’t have to ferret!

The diction that’s hidden well within,

So wide and deep, so labyrinthine..

So special yet modest, so subtle yet simple,

A spell that could make me want to snuggle;

So charming and cozy,

That’s just loving and lovely;

That a million words wouldn’t suffice

To describe  “The Words Hidden In Your Smile..

~ Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

– The Confused Young Adult

I Wish I Had Done That…

Lately this has been a catch phrase that keeps going on and on in my head..

I wish I had done that…

I have done many stupid things, way too many blunders in this really short span of my life in this world. Stammered while giving an important speech in front of a huge audience, wore ridiculous outfits for the school annual-day’s play, forgot the lyrics of the song while singing on stage, danced like a lunatic in the classroom – not realizing that my teacher was standing right behind me, bunked many math classes because I loathed it, dated a nice guy although I knew it wouldn’t work out, tried learning to dance – Bharata Natyam only to fail terribly, spoiled some fine fabric in the name of embroidery,…ahhh..the list is endless.

But do I regret any of it? No, not at all!

I regret only the things that I didn’t do.

I have heard of that phrase a lot, but it never made sense to me when I was younger. But now I wonder how I missed out on trying different things. I wish I had the chance to think out of the box. I feel like I spent most of my time on academics, learning a few new things and playing. Although I don’t regret them either. I just wish I had done a lot more than just that.

I Wish I Had Done That...

I resigned my MNC job for some good reasons and I have taken up a few other activities. When I told people that I resigned, they were shocked. At first that scared me as I thought I made a huge blunder and messed up my life for good! But now that I rethink, it all seems to be a blessing in disguise. Being young and having the time to re-think your decisions and making your life the way you want is a once-in-a-lifetime-opportunity. Right? 🙂

I’m trying to make the best out of all the opportunities I’ve got. Even if it meant failing terribly and wondering “aahh..I did something so stupid all over again!”, I’m just going to try it all. I already did a few stuff that I found really amusing. I failed in a couple of gigs too, but I learnt a lot out of them. I don’t regret it.

Just Follow Your Heart

Yes, that’s what I’ve been thinking lately..

There is no more space for regret. There is no more time to waste. Woah! Feels like am in a movie. Would life change all at once with one song?? 😀

Is it possible to live a regret-free life? Will I be glad that I did everything I ever could Or, Will I Still Regret In Future Saying… “Aah.. I Wish I Had Done That…”?

Do you feel the same way about your life? Or do you have a different perspective? Feel free to share your opinions in the comment box below or just spend a couple more minutes to ponder… 🙂

Confused As Always,

~ Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

The Confused Young Adult

Love In 40 Words..

April A-Z Blogging – Day 12 : ‘L’

I have written many different poems, stories and blog posts on “Love”, but this one is a very simple, ‘from-the-heart‘ piece in which I wrote about what “love” really means to me. So, I believe I this would do justice for the post on “L for Love” 🙂

The Confused Young Adult

I have been invited by 3 of my buddy bloggers : Randoms by a Random – Ameena, Amrit’s Blog, and Living the dream – Hargun Wahi to write about love in 40 words : the condition being 10 lines with 4 words in each line.

So, here it is : Love in 40 Words. 🙂

Love In 40 Words..

Forgetting to be angry,

Forgiving the biggest blunder;

Smiling after a disaster,

Supporting after huge failure;

A shoulder to cry,

A hand to lift;

Beyond all materialistic pleasures,

Bound by strong emotions;

Relationships defined and undefined,

Remains one – Just Love…

~ Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

The Confused Young Adult

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Pavements and Cherry Blossoms..

April A-Z Blogging – Day 6 : ‘F’

How about a ballad / prose poetry about Frustration?? 😉

This is the first time am writing something like this. Hope you like it !

Pavements and Cherry Blossoms..
Pavements and Cherry Blossoms..

Yes, I see you walking along the pavement near the fourth block. The one we once christened “the cherry blossoms-camouflaged-ethereal beauty”. The place where we first met and wrote a fresh chapter. The spot where we first held hands and walked together towards a new direction, yet along the same pavements. Ah, I remember the sweet nothings we shared, the endless conversations that we had; they still echo in my ears, like a song from a faraway radio.

Ridiculous, is this world of ours, that now I could see you right in front of my eyes, just a few feet away; and what seems so near is now so far. This virtual distance between us and the huge crack in my heart, engulfed by the depths of frustration – “Frustration”, yes, as I stand in the middle the cross roads, the cherries remain the same, the pavements are ever winding.. you still walk along the same block, but towards a different direction; holding hands, yes, but not mine anymore… “Frustrated”, yes, for having been so naive, for giving it all with nothing left to hold on to, as I walk away, alone, along this ever ending pavements…

~ Yuvathi 🙂

The Confused Young Adult

Doubt : The Killer Of Joy Or The Birth Of Freedom and Knowledge?

April A-Z Blogging – Day 4 : ‘D’

During my schooldays, after very lecture, our teacher would wait for us to ask her questions, some doubt regarding the concepts that were taught. Doubts meant “you understood something”. Funny, but true. Children with lots of doubts were considered intelligent and inquisitive to learn. You should have a million doubts so that you will learn a million new things!

Interesting! isn’t it? But for how long does it remain true?

Doubt : The Killer Of Joy Or The Birth Of Freedom and Knowledge?
Doubt : The Killer Of Joy Or The Birth Of Freedom and Knowledge?

Every nice word and aspect of life starts to show it’s ugly side as we grow up. When we are young we learn to make friends, as we grow we learn to understand enemies and frenemies. The words fun, happiness and peace diminish to show their ugly twins.

So does “doubt”. The very basic thought that helped us understand things in the universe and beyond the universe, make us to doubt some of the most beautiful of aspects of life too. It slowly starts to break down the tiny little blocks of faith and trust with which we built our castle called life, destroying every little space we had left for ventilation only to suffocate ourselves.

Doubts are good as long as they give a productive result. But….

When was the last time you doubted your friend?

When was the last time you doubted your love?

When was the last time you doubted yourself?

The sense of doubt is like walking on a tight rope. The more you doubt, the rope gets higher and weaker. When you think you could no longer believe in yourself/someone, the rope breaks only to drop you hard from the great heights.

Sometimes I feel so lost and directionless. I feel like a loser. I doubt my ability to achieve. I wonder if I’ll ever make it. But every single time, when this terrible thought knocks my head, I shake it back by reminding myself about the fact that “I’m born for a reason, and I’m going to make it.”

So, the next time when you are in doubt, ask yourself, “Do I really have to suffocate myself or should I take a leap of faith?”

After all life is all about making the best of now for dreaming a better future! 🙂

~ Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

The Confused Young Adult

Story Time With A Difference #2 : Use Things and Love People. Not Vice Versa!

How many times have you felt like you have been used by someone for their own selfish needs? You always thought they loved, but the truth is, they were using you like a tool to get their tasks done. How many times have you wished you were his iphone or you were her makeup kit so that she would love you too?

Here’s a story that reminds an important message :

Use Things and Love People. Not Vice Versa!

It was a pleasant evening, when a young and happy couple celebrated their fifth wedding anniversary. They enjoyed the sea breeze over a candle light dinner and walked barefoot, holding hands, along the sands of the beach..reminiscing all their adventures together in the past 5 years. On their way home, they stopped in their favorite spot and decided to exchange gifts.

The wife gifted her husband, his favorite book’s rare edition! He felt so special and overjoyed. After relishing the moment of joy over receiving such a precious gift, the man handed his wife a key.

Yes, a key to a brand new car worth a million dollars! The wife was speechless and overwhelmed by his choice of gift! He asked her to go for a ride on her new car. She was super excited that she hopped into it right away!

It hadn’t been even 10 minutes since she left, the man heard sirens blaring and ambulance vehicle rushing towards the same direction. Panic stricken, the man immediately rushed to the spot and noticed that the very same car had met with an accident and it was rammed, shapeless! It looked like a piece of junk in the middle of the road. Right next to the car, he saw his wife, standing, shocked, scared but safe. She had only a few bruises on her arms and forehead. But the million dollar car was crushed into rubble!

She stood there feeling utterly guilty over damaging such an expensive car within few minutes of buying it! She couldn’t even see her husband’s face. She was cursing herself for being so careless. But the man ran towards her, gave her a tight hug and said “Thank you for being safe. I love you. Not the car. Not the money. We can buy another vehicle. There’s never another you“..

THE END

The next time when your best friend or your loved one loses or damages your prized possession, an object that might mean a lot to you but can be bought by money; remember : You ‘love’ people and not the things. You only ‘use’ things, not people.

Hope you all had fun reading this week’s Story Time With A Difference. See you again next week on Story Time With A Difference!

Thank you for stopping by!

~ Yuvathi 🙂