Sometimes You Need To Let Go..

Life is just a collection of memories made by the collaboration of people who cross paths with us during the journey. Of people who are total strangers, best friends, family and acquaintances. Some remain by our side through the crests and troughs, some are mere passing clouds while some are merciless invincible hurricanes, that uproot every last thing we have and take them along with them…leaving behind nothing.

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The ones who stay by our side no matter what happens are our blessing. But what can we do about the rest of the people?

Should we run behind them, chase them and beg them to stay? Is it possible? Even if it were possible, is it worth?

What about those who misunderstand us? What about those who don’t care how we feel no matter how many times we try our best to explain ourselves?

Should we try to make them understand? Do we really need to explain ourselves? Is it worth all the pain and effort??

Last but not the least, what about those who deceive us? The ones we trusted blindly but left us shattered and heart broken? Should we be angry with them forever?

Does anger serve any purpose? Especially when the person has already left, does it impact anyone else other than ourselves? Or, should we go for a revenge?

Does revenge put the broken pieces of our heart back together and heal the scars?

It might be difficult to digest. It might be heavy on the chest, choking the throat, aching the heart and straining the eyes from breaking into a flood of tears… But the best thing we could do for ourselves is to let go..

Let go of the people who left and keep their memories,

While letting go of the bad memories and keeping the good ones.

Let go of all the pain and keep the joy.

Because you deserve happiness. You deserve to live a peaceful life. 

Let go.. Move on.

Be Kind to everyone. Be kind to yourself too.

~Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

The Confused Young Adult

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My Life In The 1900s!

Well.. I thought am going to be back to the blogging world with a bang and introduced a series called The 4-Line Motivation Series and then Mother Nature couldn’t take it anymore. She got so furious that she came back with a bang too and literally destroyed our city with a terribly huge cyclone and heavy rain!

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And, that’s how I went back to the 1900s! 😀

  • We didn’t have electricity for an entire week. So many trees had fallen down and many transformers were destroyed by the heavy winds and rain.
  • No water because we couldn’t run the bore-well motor.
  • No source of news/entertainment because obviously the TV didn’t work.
  • No source of communication because all networks were down.
  • Even if there was a weak signal, our phones’ batteries died.
  • No lights, fans or air-conditioning as the UPS died down after few hours.
  • We couldn’t inform our worried relatives and friends that we were safe.

Nothing with the latest technologies was functioning, it was like the darkest of times. The days were short, so there was not much sunlight and it was cold all the time. Had we had such experiences before, I think we would have handled it better. If you have read my earlier posts, you would know that I come from a place where 24°C is considered as winter! No Kidding! We hardly have winter and we always have bright sunlight all the time! 

So the cyclone was hard to handle as it was all so new for us.

It was like we were going back in time!

But it was really so much fun and awesome!

Time Travel – Here’s My Life In The 1900’s.. 😉

  • We drew water from the well manually. Yes, we did!
  • Everyone in our apartment came together to help each other! We made pulleys using ropes to pull up the water buckets to different floors in the apartment. One would draw the water, others would stand in line to pass the buckets and pull them over to various floors in the building through stairs!
  • We had to clear the blocked roads and couldn’t wait for someone else to do it for us. We took our own equipment and cleared the fallen trees by cutting them down manually and moving them off the roads.
  • Since we had no internet or TV, we all had great family time.
  • In the meantime, apart from all the physical work; I read several books! I read at least one book a day, which is nearly 400 pages a day! (Awesome right?!)
  • In order to save the candle light, we all sat in the same room all the time. We sat together for dinners and teas. We were seeing each other’s face while talking and not our phones for text messages.
  • We washed clothes and dishes sitting next to the well in the backyard (just like the olden days!)
  • We used Water like Liquid Gold!!!
  • We helped people in our neighboring apartments by sharing the water from our well. We had so much social networking going on without internet!
  • The news about the weather, power and network availability was shared from street to street through word of mouth just like the early 20th century!! 😀
  • Most importantly, we all went to bed by 8 pm! (well there’s nothing much to do in the dark, and the peace and quiet makes you sleep like a newborn puppy!)

The list is endless!

Living in the 1900’s was not so bad. In fact I was very comfortable without phone, internet and electricity. Wish we had battery-run radio just for weather updates and news. We have become so dependent on our smartphones and laptops that we didn’t even think about a blackout and emergency equipment. It was a wake up call. 🙂

Well well.. everything is back to normal now. I literally had to fight with the network service provider to fix my phone and internet connection and finally all is well!

In 2015 December, we were struck by heavy floods and 2016 December we faced a terrible cyclone. Hope 2017 would be calmer and peaceful.

Wish you all a wonderful New Year’s Eve.

~Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

The Confused Young Adult

 

The 4-Line Motivation Series #1

Aannndd.. Here it is! The first post of the series 🙂

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If you like it, pin it, share it, tweet it! Spread some positivity 🙂

Have a great day!!!

~Yuvathi

The Confused Young Adult

Is It Okay To Be Unhappy?

You can’t smile all the time. Life is not always a bed of roses. Sometimes the thorn peeps out, more so often many thorns peep out and hurt you until you bleed. It is okay, it happens. It is okay to be unhappy.

Yes, it is 100% okay not to be okay!

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Do you know what is not okay?

Not admitting the fact that you are unhappy! Hiding your sadness and trying to fool yourself and the people around you.. Well, that is cruelty that you impose on yourself. If you are sad, let it out. Talk to your friend or family about it. If you don’t want people to hear it, then write it down in your diary, tear it, burn it, or blog about it, publish it, trash it. It’s all your choice. You have many options! If nothing works, cry out loud. Sometimes all you need is to melt your heart’s heaviness with some tears. It is okay to cry too!

But make sure, you let it ALL out. Don’t let failure and sadness rule you. You are the Queen/King of your life. It has to move the way you want it.

Sometimes your life becomes rebellious. It doesn’t let you take the lead. Well, why should you let your guard down?

Stay strong. Be as rebellious as you can.

Fight back. Fall down. But don’t forget to get up. Dust your shoulders.

With your head held high, Fight again.

Do you know why I’m writing about this now?

I have been going through a really rough time at home and at work. Really rough. But I didn’t hide it, I let it out. There’s no point in hiding it all and carrying it in your heart. Thanks to my friends, family, my blog and diary. I have been holding up and fighting back. Although it takes more of one’s own effort, it is always lovely to have people around you, who support and cheer you through everything.

I must tell you, it is so relieving once you admit the fact that you are having a tough time and that you are hurt and feeling low.

Sometimes I would lose all hope and go to bed with a heavy heart. Few times I wept to my heart’s relief. But the next morning I would wake up, dress up well, look in the mirror and tell myself, “I can do it”, “I will fight back”.

It is okay to be unhappy. Just don’t let it hold you back from doing what you want to do and being who you really want to be. Live your life. Don’t waste it.

~Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

The Confused Young Adult

Time Moves On. So Does Life.

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I still remember the day…
Crying my heart out,
Sitting in this very same room,
Listening to the album am listening to right now…

The music is a memento,
That heartache is just a memory now
It is all just a time long gone..

That’s how life is.
Time just moves on.
So does Life.
For better sunshine & rainbows. 🙂

~Yuvathi 🙂 ❤
The Confused Young Adult

If You Can’t Keep A Secret, Don’t Expect Others To Keep It As Well!

How many times have you told someone your heart’s closest secret or a personal story in the belief that they will keep it a secret too?

And in that, how many times have you been shattered when they broke your trust?

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This happens to almost everyone.

It has happened tons of times to me too! Mostly, I trusted the wrong person all through the year, quite oblivious of the fact that every word of all the secrets I shared was known to everyone around me!

Well, just like all humans I was torn apart when I got to know about it. I thought I was stupid for being so naive. For some time, I lost my belief in true friendship and trust.

But we just can’t stop trusting people.. Right?

Life is a matter of faith and belief after all..

If we trust we get hurt.

If we don’t trust, then there is no point in living at all!

So then, how can we prevent ourselves from getting hurt?

Here’s is a simple solution :

1. Stop being a drama queen!

Every time I tell something confidential, personal or a seemingly secretive information to someone, I always keep in mind of the vicious probability.

Yes, the probability that someday I will receive the very same information – a highly exaggerated version of the same matter from some random stranger!

This can help you to remain calm and not create a ruckus when the situation gets out of hand! You are mentally prepared for it. So it won’t damage you emotionally!

2. DON’T use the same old dialogue

“Please don’t tell anyone else. Let this be between us”

Yeah, you know why? That’s because the moment you tell someone NOT to think about a monkey — they can think of Nothing Else but a Monkey!!! So just don’t do it. Instead analyse if you are okay with the vicious probability. If you think you are not prepared, then simply keep your mouth shut!

If You Can’t Keep A Secret,
Don’t Expect Others To Keep It As Well!

Haiku : Curtains Of My Heart

~Yuvathi  🙂

– The Confused Young Adult

Remember, You Are A Human. Not A Doormat!

Being the Yes-Man might make you think you are the nicest person in the world. People would often look up to you and depend on you for anything and everything. You may think you hold on to a special space in people’s hearts. But let me tell you one thing…

The Doormat Is Never Given Special Attention.

Only when it goes missing;

People know the dirt in their shoes. And the amount of dirt they have been carrying all this time.

Saying “NO” will not make you a bad person. It only highlights your privilege, self esteem and adds dignity to your existence.

The more you say “YES”, the more people will take advantage of you. They will take you and your favor for granted. It’s not your fault — people all around the world are just like that by default!

Just like how man misuses nature and her offerings and services; takes her for granted despite the fact that she gives them all for free; he would misuse your favors too!

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You need not say NO for everything as well. Learn to prioritize. First yourself then the others.

When you say No, if they get offended as say “What personal business? You did it all these days..Can’t you….bla bla” then understand that they were just using you all this time and you’ve been their Doormat!

If they understand and if they have been grateful, they will smile without any hesitation and say “alright! No probs!”. They will understand and respect your personal space.

Next time when someone asks to get their “Regular Coffee” on your way to office, tell them “NO, I can’t because I need to take care of some personal business”.

When someone asks you for your password, tell them “NO, It is called password for a reason. I can’t share it with you”.

Next time when your colleague asks you to finish their part of work like you always do because they would like to hang out with their friends, tell them “NO, I can’t. Because I have my own stack of work to complete!”

If your roommate says some excuse as usual to escape from sharing the workload while preparing the dinner, tell her “NO, I can’t cook either. Let’s eat out and go Dutch for the bills!”

Learn To Say NO.
It’s NOW or NEVER.

Remember, You Are A Human.
Not A Doormat!

~Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

–The Confused Young Adult

The Why’s, What’s, When’s and How’s That Trouble Our Hearts..

As I sat wondering about all the broken relationships, long lost friends, heartaches and heartbreaks, my mind got cluttered with a million questions. The more I thought, the heavier they got!

I thought I should jot them down and ask the world in an Open Letter…..

Do you feel the same way too?

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Why is it difficult to trust whole heartedly and love unconditionally?

What stops people from shedding their masks and be their true selves? 

How many times can one be hurt and yet stay strong and positive for more?

When can we laugh our heart out without worrying about losing this wonderful moment?

What does it take to make someone believe in love, friendship, themselves, ourselves and the world around?

When, Why and How does a lovely relationship get crushed into nothing?

Why is it so difficult to believe all over again after getting hurt?

What is life without expectations?

Why so many expectations when it leaves behind only disappointments..?

How much is too much?

Am pretty sure, we all can answer every one of the questions above. I too can write an entire page on each of them as well.

But how practically true to the heart could they really be?

It is easier to say a lot of things than do them in real life..

Am I wrong?

I could only wish that we all live our lives peacefully without all the Why’s, What’s, When’s and How’s That Trouble Our Hearts..

Now tell me, Do You Feel The Same Way Too?

Sincerely,

 THE Confused Young Adult

Story Time With A Difference #3 : How Focused Are You?

When you were a kid, you would have wondered how the stream water bubbles, the stars twinkle, the moon fades and grows, how far can you dig and where the soil ends, and so on.. As you grow up, you tend to wonder..

Who Am I?

What Am I doing Right Now?

What Am I Born For?

What’s the purpose of my life?

And that’s how the venture begins.. You tend to create goals – long term and short term goals; make choices, tough decisions and set towards your path. You cross way too many obstacles, to see the little rays of hope and walk past all the heartbreaks and painful moments, little steps of failure and mild success while in search of your destiny.

But, then comes the question…

Here’s a simple short story that brings the most important question for every dreamer, venturing across the world with an unquenchable thirst to know the purpose of their life..

How Focused Are You?

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In a tiny village near the river of Angels, lived a small tribe. Next day was the birthday of the chief of the village and the entire tribe was ecstatic to celebrate the same with majestic grandeur. They prepared every tiny detail with perfection and the best part of the celebration was The 1000 kilograms of Sweets made specially to surprise the Chief.

After making the 1000 Kg of sweets for the celebration, the tribals were super excited. They had accomplished the herculean task with ease! But only then did they realize that they don’t have a backup plan to store the Sweets away from the reach of the ants! The village had a large army of sweet eating ants that gobble every pinch of sugar left in the box!

So they all thought of a plan:

They kept sweets in the middle of the hall and drew a perimeter around the sweets by pouring large amounts of sugar.

The ants that smelled the aroma of the sweets went straight to the location, gobbled all the sugar and did not even think beyond the sugar line. Although they smelled the Sweets, they were fascinated by the sugar cubes and were happy to get just that. They did not venture any further.

The next day, the Sweets were intact and the entire village celebrated and relished the yummy delicacy with ultimate satisfaction and joy.

THE END

Most of the time, we tend to try hard and walk almost near the destination just like the ants but then stop right there thinking that is enough.

Smaller successes come by only to coax you to move further; 

Smaller failures come by to test you and make you work harder.

So now, ask yourself :

Are you still on the track?

Or

Have you already stopped?

Don’t you wish to dream anymore?

Or

Do you still wanna walk a little further?

Think about it….and find out – How Focused Are You? 🙂

~ Yuvathi 🙂

– A fellow venturer 😉