Today In Short : #14 – What Happens When You Don’t Look Your Age

Hi !

You all may wonder what happened to me all these days, well I took some time off to sort things in my head. As you might know, this blog is all about sharing good memories, opinions that make a difference, positivity and optimism. Since I was a little upset and messed up, I wasn’t sure if I could share happy thoughts with you all. All I could think of was sad poetry, bitter experiences, and melancholy. :-/ Hence, this short break from the blogosphere! 🙂

Well, now am so geared up and I am all set to share about something that happened to me today : What Happens When You Don’t Look Your Age. 

If you have read my previous post : 20 Facts About Me, you would know that I look too young for my age. Many times I’ve not been taken seriously in shops and malls as the shop keepers think I’m some school kid, just looking around all the colorful things in the store. :-/

So, here’s the story:

Today In Short : #14 - What Happens When You Don't Look Your Age

I started playing badminton with the guys of my neighborhood this week. Since am new to this area, none of them knew me and I made a bunch of new friends and acquaintances in a couple of days. At first the guys and the girls talked to me formally (if someone is new to you, you prefer formal speech to address them). All of them were about 5-6 years younger than me while some were even 10 years younger! Unfortunately, they all thought I was younger than most of them! The youngest batch thought I  would be of their age group and addressed me in informal speech!!

In case you don’t know, you might wonder what is so alarming about that. Well, in Asian languages, unlike English, it is very important to address a person in formal speech if they are older than you. It is considered very disrespectful otherwise. So I was taken aback a little and said, “dear, I’m about 10 years older than you”. Upon hearing that, there was utter silence in the crew for a moment which was then followed by huge gasps and “really?? are you?? I cant believe it!”…  Sigh!

Alright that’s not a big deal. I thought it’s okay, it happens..

So, I took a few steps for damage control. In order to avoid further misconceptions, I wore suitable clothing and hairstyle hoping that people would then believe am a little older. But then, what happened later, left me dumbstruck!

Today, my mom visited me while I was playing. She looks her age of course! As I was talking to one of the guys there, he said “yeah, why don’t you play with your Granny?Wait. What?? Did he just think that my mom is my granny? And for the love of God, did he just say it out loud?? 😮

When I said, she is not my granny, she is my mom, he said, “I thought you’re a high schooler and so I thought she might be your granny!” Duh :-/

For that, a girl sitting next to me (a high schooler) said Oh! Please don’t you worry, people often mistake my age too. At times kids address me as aunty, they think am very old! It hurt me that once I even cried a river!

Oh Goodness! I am dumbfounded. Now, am so confused if I should be happy that I don’t look old…

Have you had such experiences? Did you feel this way too? Do you think looks really matter? Or, is it okay to be perceived younger/older than your actual age? Feel free to share your opinions in the comment box below. 

Tomorrow I will be updating a new story for Story Time With A Difference. So stay tuned!

~ Yuvathi 🙂

The Confused Young Adult

3Gether Forever..

Sometimes, a person you never thought would mean anything to you, becomes the person who makes your life beautiful, every minute memorable and every second precious. For me, it was two of them.

They changed almost everything! Every moment of fear into excitement. Every moment of sadness into a funny memory. Every festival into a grand celebration. All they did was spend some precious moments with me. They taught me how to laugh, gave me lovely surprises, confused me with their mischiefs and pranks, made me go mad and crazy with their nonsensical talks..They have always been my two pillars of support and strength.. My two adorably lovely Friends. Brothers. Colleagues. My Family. 

Essence Of Reminiscence - Week 4 - Random : 3Gether Forever
Essence Of Reminiscence – Week 4 – Random : 3Gether Forever

We called ourselves “3Gether Forever” because it was three of us! We are from 3 different states and each of us speak a different language. But it has never been a barrier. We were together only for few months, after which we moved to different places because of work.  The last day of separation hurt so much that I cried a river. Must I say a sea? That won’t be enough either..

Sometimes, the most beautiful moments bring you tears.. As I type this, my eyes are tearing up till the brim, waiting to burst out of the dams of my eyelids and cause a flood. It aches somewhere, is it my heart? my mind? or my brain? I do not know where..

Why do we cry when we think about the happy memories? We should laugh out loud just the way we laughed that day..right? But why can’t we?

Am a terrible communicator when it comes to personal relationships. I don’t know to call up my friends and talk. I don’t text either. But I remember them each and every day…and thank them in my heart for giving me such beautiful memories for a lifetime. For making my days bright and colorful, full of smiles and joy.

Am sure of the fact that even if we are miles away, we will still stay connected through our hearts…and they know I will always love them and cherish our bond…Forever and ever…

#3Gether_Forever

~ Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

In response to Essence Of Reminiscence : Week 4 – Random

Week 3 : Essence Of Reminiscence – Siblings & Childhood Friends

Happy Monday everyone! 🙂

Am so sorry I couldn’t follow all the responses for Essence Of Reminiscence last week. I will read the rest of all of your responses and make the Essence Of Reminiscence : Week 2 Compiled edition by tomorrow. Our fellow bloggers and friends told me that Week 2 – theme was really tough! So I thought I must make it easier this week and here it is!

Siblings & Childhood Friends

Yes, that’s the theme!

Week 3 : Essence Of Reminiscence - Siblings & Childhood Friends
Week 3 : Essence Of Reminiscence – Siblings & Childhood Friends

All of us would have had either a sibling, a cousin or a childhood best friend/best foe who made our life so memorable or terrible!! They would have been the ones who brought the best and the worst out of us!

What did you do with them to make the days so memorable/terrible?

What did they do to you that made the days so memorable/terrible?

I have had my own dosage of awesomeness and awfulness with my own sister, the best ever person I can ever find in the world. When I was younger, I had the best mischievous days with my cousin. My childhood was full of wonderful friends, cousins and of course my sister who were mischievous, loving, caring and troublesome in every way! Thinking about those days brings a smile every time. Even the days when we cried after being caught by our parents or the grumpy neighbor, seem so sweet and funny now!

So, this week, share something on your blog with a pingback to this post about that brother, sister, cousin or the wonderful best friend/best foe or the neighbor’s kid that made your childhood awesome/awful. Share a picture, or a poem, a story or anything; describing what happened and few other details of your childhood! 🙂

Hints:

Pingbacks will enable your post’s link to appear below the theme post and all other participants and readers can also take a look at it! Tagging your post with ‘Essence Of Reminiscence’ will make it easier for fellow bloggers to find your post on their reader!

If you don’t know how to add a pingback,  Just use this code on your text editor!

<a href="https://theconfusedyoungadult.wordpress.com/2015/03/02/week-3-essence-of-reminiscence-siblings-childhood-friends/">Siblings &amp; Childhood Friends</a>

Link for more instructions and details about the event: Essence Of Reminiscence 

Hope you have fun sharing your memories this week on Essence Of Reminiscence!

Happy Reminiscing! 😉

~ Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

The So-Called Best Friend

Have you ever had a friend who promises you to keep all your secrets safe and then in your absence goes around and brags to everyone about each and every one of your conversations? And when you start to get a tiny hint of doubt, they cry, raise a ruckus and throw a whole new drama because you suspected them and make you feel guilty??

Well, then we are on the same page.

The So-Called Best Friend

I’ve met two such friends in my life and so I can understand the feeling better than anybody. But how did I get fooled twice?! I couldn’t forgive myself when I was deceived by another guy in a row. It hurt so badly.

In friendships, all that we expect is trust. We give and take trust-being the highest above all gems and currencies!! Yes, trust can never be bought, trust is beyond everything and only a good friend is privileged to have it! We don’t take it for granted!

I’ve had some really bitter experiences which I’ve never shared with anyone but that one friend! There used to be so many gossips and rumours about me for no reason and I hardly cared because I believed I had some really good friends that I can rely on. I don’t know about other places, but here, you can’t cross teenage without a bunch of gossips about you (mostly false rumors with extra toppings and spices added by the expert gossip mongers) I told him about my other friends, my family stuff, my secret crushes, my fears, and everything!

Whenever we met, he used to back me up, support me and most of the times, in front of everyone else.. when I was bullied, he was never around! He would vanish during crisis and come up with an excuse later!

And guess what he did?

He went all around the school, twisting each and every word that I had told him into something else. He made himself look like a hero by sharing all my secrets and deepest feelings! Nobody cared to stop him? Yeah, because people love to hear others’ secrets and cook up more stories! How mean!

And I, above all, trusted him for a whole year, only to be humiliated and left hurt with a huge scar in my heart for a lifetime. It has been years since this happened. But I do remember everything in detail. I got to know everything only after we all dispersed to various cities and states for college. How stupid! Right after all this, I got fooled once again in college. I must tell you, that guy is the smartest, meanest and the most worthless being alive! But thank goodness, I hadn’t told him many many things, now that I recall..I’m glad.

The so-called best friends are harmful. They are toxic. You don’t have to keep them close. A drop or a bottle, poison is poisonous.

Being an optimist, I learnt my lesson from these bad guys. I learnt how to identify good friend from the rest. I made some really awesome friends too! 🙂

Here’s a list of things I learnt about “friends”, “good friends” and “so-called best friends”.

  1. One who joins you and trusts you even before knowing about your popularity and talents, stays with you forever. (Yeah, that’s how I have friends over a decade, yeah, I know am bragging 😀 )
  2. When you have your doubts about your friend’s loyalty and honesty, a true friend would talk it out. Not create  huge drama out of it.
  3. A good friend would never ask you for details, they will just know everything when they look into your eyes. Not knowing wouldn’t be a problem, they will just support you no matter what!
  4. A real best friend would stay right next to you when you are in trouble. Not just vanish during times of crisis.
  5. Good friends try to protect your innocence, fake ones take advantage of it.
  6. You could always see trust and honesty in your friend’s eyes. If you don’t, don’t hesitate to confront them. Even after that, if you are not sure, just cut them off. Your intuition, your heart would say it all.

You can even trust your enemies. But never these so-called best friends.

If you have such a friend, don’t forget to do the needful. If you had one, learn from the mistake and move on. 🙂

~ Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

The Confused Young Adult

4 Things To Carry Along From 2014 To 2015

While everybody is busy thinking of quitting their old bad habits, bring changes in their lifestyle and character, modify their friends and social circle, adjust their thought process and start the new year afresh; I would like to carry a few things with me from 2014 to 2015..

2014 gave me so much, I’m so grateful for all those moments and thankful to each and everyone who made it a memorable journey.

1. Friends

1. Friends

I met some amazing people this year who taught me so many things,  stayed with me during my ups and downs,  gave me a shoulder to cry,  an arm to lean and a hand to rise after a great fall. I wouldn’t be who I am right now if not for those wonderful people; my lovely friends. 

2. Lessons Learnt

2. Lessons Learnt

2014 was the hardest year of my life. I went through too many difficult phases that eventually carved me into a better human being. I learnt some of the best lessons from bitter experiences but am grateful that I learned them sooner perhaps than later; lessons that I will take with me forever.

3.Wonderful Memories

3. Wonderful Memories

The year 2014 was the most dramatic period during which every moment turned into a wonderful memory. Those that were bitter and ugly then, seem to be good and memorable ones now. I had some huge failures and some awesome victories, a few broken relationships, many amazing friendships. I joined my first job, a new experience in a new world. I bid farewell to some of my closest buddies, it was hard, my heart bled because of the unbearable separation. But now am glad to know that we will have a reunion someday and we will cherish those memories in our hearts forever.

4.Healthy Habits

4. good Habits

I cultivated a few good and healthy habits along the year that helped me mold my character and personality and my perception. Habits like visiting the library often, reading atleast 2 books a month,  learning something new everyday, maintaining a proper diet, having a small garden, writing this blog….and many more. I wish to take them along as a part of me, for a better future to make a better ‘me’ and for a better year ahead, full of hopes, challenges, fun and adventures. 

Hope you all have something to take along with you for the upcoming year. Something special that’s priceless and invaluable 🙂 Cherish them. Nurture them. As they help in the making of “You” 🙂

Wish you all a happy new year 2015 🙂 

~Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

The Confused Young Adult

The Beginning

Last Sunday, at 7:00 am, I opened my eyes after a sound sleep, grabbed my ‘smart phone’ lying next to my pillow, opened Whatsapp, went through the inbox, refreshed my e-mail, tweeted a meaningless update about my desire to drink a hot cup of coffee,swiped through Facebook news feeds, checked the number of likes for my photo that I uploaded the previous night (thank God it was 50+ likes in one night) and updated my hardly used apps for no reason and finally decided I should get up and looked at the clock, well, it was 8:30 am.

social media

Wait, what? 1.5 hours on total crap? Yes, one and half solid hours, wasted ruthlessly on some totally useless activity which made some guy in the U.S a billionaire and made you poorer  every time you logged in! The worst part is, most of these virtual friends are not your friends after all! These virtual friends do not actually care about you. They just want to know what you are up to, so that they can do something more ridiculous to get more likes and shares than you do!

This hollow thought sunk into me, all of a sudden, at 8:30 am. How? I have no idea, but lucky me, I could at least realize what I was missing.. My lovely family waiting for me to join for breakfast, the red rose that bloomed in my front yard this morning after a lot of hard work, manuring and grafting, my neighbor’s child waiting to show me her new birthday dress, above all, “my me time“. That very moment, I felt like an enlightened modern day Buddha, and just like Buddha, I shred all my useless apps. Deleted my Whatsapp account, deactivated my Facebook account and logged out of twitter and e-mail. Wow! The feeling was amazing! I was no more a part of the rat race in the fake world. I felt reborn in the “actual” real world.

friends

Now, my real friends who really care about me, take time amidst their busy schedule, call me and ask me how I am. That feels great! When I sit with my family, am actually with them and not with my phone and my virtual so-called friends!

family-bonding

Beautiful moments in life are captured in our heart and treasured as memories and not captured in a camera and saved in the hard disk.

I realized, I must share this with the world, with people who might be missing some of the most beautiful moments in their life while looking at some meaningless meme about Taylor Swift’s new boyfriend or Kim Kardashian’s butt.

How nice it would be if people share their daily fun anecdotes about their time at school or workplace with their family and friends and bond with them instead of tweeting the same to the world that cares the least? How happy a woman would be if her husband and children appreciate her culinary skills over dinner instead of sharing a picture of “Starbucks Coffee” on Instagram saying “yummmyyyy” even before taking a sip?!

Take a break for a moment.  Rethink. What are you doing with your life? 

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