Over-Possessiveness Can Kill A Relationship!

Being possessive is cute. Yes, when someone is possessive about you, you realize how much you mean to them. It shows you that they don’t want to lose you no matter what! Of course, that’s really sweet! Isn’t it?
But too much of anything is dangerous. It is definitely true when it comes to possessiveness too!

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Recently, I almost broke up with my best friend because he was too threatened by my interest for another guy! Yes, my best friend was feeling scared that he might lose me to my new “crush”. He was afraid that I wouldn’t spend time with him just because I thought this new guy was hot!

Woah….Right?

Who would ever stop spending time with their best friend! Actually, the best friend usually forms the support system. He is supposed to be the one helping me with the timing and catchy dialogues and stuff…right?

But that didn’t happen.

Instead he was so threatened and over-possessive that I lost interest on my new-found crush and had a bitter taste in my friendship too. I couldn’t take his constant nagging anymore. I almost broke up with my bestie! But anyway, we talked it all out and we are back together as BFF’s and my crush is seeing someone else now.. *Damn It*

So, here’s a request – small piece of advice from a victim of over-possessiveness to the rest of the world :

Caging a bird is never a good idea. The bird is meant to fly high and not to be strangled in a cage. The moment it finds a gap, it will definitely fly away!

Let it free, take good care and it will fly back to you because you are the home in this whole wide world.

If you love someone, it is okay to be possessive. But please have some confidence about your relationship! Understand that whoever has to stay, will definitely stay with you. If they don’t, then they were never meant to be!

Do not kill what you have because you’re too afraid of losing it. If you constantly fear..you will definitely lose it anyway! So, please take good care of what you have. Enjoy and love with all your heart!

Be the sweet home for your loved ones.
Don’t ever be a cruel cage.

Live and let live.
~Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

Week 3 : Essence Of Reminiscence – Siblings & Childhood Friends

Happy Monday everyone! 🙂

Am so sorry I couldn’t follow all the responses for Essence Of Reminiscence last week. I will read the rest of all of your responses and make the Essence Of Reminiscence : Week 2 Compiled edition by tomorrow. Our fellow bloggers and friends told me that Week 2 – theme was really tough! So I thought I must make it easier this week and here it is!

Siblings & Childhood Friends

Yes, that’s the theme!

Week 3 : Essence Of Reminiscence - Siblings & Childhood Friends
Week 3 : Essence Of Reminiscence – Siblings & Childhood Friends

All of us would have had either a sibling, a cousin or a childhood best friend/best foe who made our life so memorable or terrible!! They would have been the ones who brought the best and the worst out of us!

What did you do with them to make the days so memorable/terrible?

What did they do to you that made the days so memorable/terrible?

I have had my own dosage of awesomeness and awfulness with my own sister, the best ever person I can ever find in the world. When I was younger, I had the best mischievous days with my cousin. My childhood was full of wonderful friends, cousins and of course my sister who were mischievous, loving, caring and troublesome in every way! Thinking about those days brings a smile every time. Even the days when we cried after being caught by our parents or the grumpy neighbor, seem so sweet and funny now!

So, this week, share something on your blog with a pingback to this post about that brother, sister, cousin or the wonderful best friend/best foe or the neighbor’s kid that made your childhood awesome/awful. Share a picture, or a poem, a story or anything; describing what happened and few other details of your childhood! 🙂

Hints:

Pingbacks will enable your post’s link to appear below the theme post and all other participants and readers can also take a look at it! Tagging your post with ‘Essence Of Reminiscence’ will make it easier for fellow bloggers to find your post on their reader!

If you don’t know how to add a pingback,  Just use this code on your text editor!

<a href="https://theconfusedyoungadult.wordpress.com/2015/03/02/week-3-essence-of-reminiscence-siblings-childhood-friends/">Siblings &amp; Childhood Friends</a>

Link for more instructions and details about the event: Essence Of Reminiscence 

Hope you have fun sharing your memories this week on Essence Of Reminiscence!

Happy Reminiscing! 😉

~ Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

The So-Called Best Friend

Have you ever had a friend who promises you to keep all your secrets safe and then in your absence goes around and brags to everyone about each and every one of your conversations? And when you start to get a tiny hint of doubt, they cry, raise a ruckus and throw a whole new drama because you suspected them and make you feel guilty??

Well, then we are on the same page.

The So-Called Best Friend

I’ve met two such friends in my life and so I can understand the feeling better than anybody. But how did I get fooled twice?! I couldn’t forgive myself when I was deceived by another guy in a row. It hurt so badly.

In friendships, all that we expect is trust. We give and take trust-being the highest above all gems and currencies!! Yes, trust can never be bought, trust is beyond everything and only a good friend is privileged to have it! We don’t take it for granted!

I’ve had some really bitter experiences which I’ve never shared with anyone but that one friend! There used to be so many gossips and rumours about me for no reason and I hardly cared because I believed I had some really good friends that I can rely on. I don’t know about other places, but here, you can’t cross teenage without a bunch of gossips about you (mostly false rumors with extra toppings and spices added by the expert gossip mongers) I told him about my other friends, my family stuff, my secret crushes, my fears, and everything!

Whenever we met, he used to back me up, support me and most of the times, in front of everyone else.. when I was bullied, he was never around! He would vanish during crisis and come up with an excuse later!

And guess what he did?

He went all around the school, twisting each and every word that I had told him into something else. He made himself look like a hero by sharing all my secrets and deepest feelings! Nobody cared to stop him? Yeah, because people love to hear others’ secrets and cook up more stories! How mean!

And I, above all, trusted him for a whole year, only to be humiliated and left hurt with a huge scar in my heart for a lifetime. It has been years since this happened. But I do remember everything in detail. I got to know everything only after we all dispersed to various cities and states for college. How stupid! Right after all this, I got fooled once again in college. I must tell you, that guy is the smartest, meanest and the most worthless being alive! But thank goodness, I hadn’t told him many many things, now that I recall..I’m glad.

The so-called best friends are harmful. They are toxic. You don’t have to keep them close. A drop or a bottle, poison is poisonous.

Being an optimist, I learnt my lesson from these bad guys. I learnt how to identify good friend from the rest. I made some really awesome friends too! 🙂

Here’s a list of things I learnt about “friends”, “good friends” and “so-called best friends”.

  1. One who joins you and trusts you even before knowing about your popularity and talents, stays with you forever. (Yeah, that’s how I have friends over a decade, yeah, I know am bragging 😀 )
  2. When you have your doubts about your friend’s loyalty and honesty, a true friend would talk it out. Not create  huge drama out of it.
  3. A good friend would never ask you for details, they will just know everything when they look into your eyes. Not knowing wouldn’t be a problem, they will just support you no matter what!
  4. A real best friend would stay right next to you when you are in trouble. Not just vanish during times of crisis.
  5. Good friends try to protect your innocence, fake ones take advantage of it.
  6. You could always see trust and honesty in your friend’s eyes. If you don’t, don’t hesitate to confront them. Even after that, if you are not sure, just cut them off. Your intuition, your heart would say it all.

You can even trust your enemies. But never these so-called best friends.

If you have such a friend, don’t forget to do the needful. If you had one, learn from the mistake and move on. 🙂

~ Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

The Confused Young Adult

Today In Short : #6 When I Forgot How To Laugh..

Is it possible? Can someone really forget how to laugh? I think I did., it had been long, really very long since I laughed out loud..

When you grow up, you take too many things into your head, that you stop enjoying little things in life..

Known for my non-stop laughter, enthusiasm, optimism and energy., it is very surprising to know that I actually forgot how to laugh. Life has been terrible lately, and those terrible incidents have changed me so much! I can’t believe it myself! But of course, my family and friends are the best support system I could ever ask for. Sadly, most of them have moved to different states and am very badly in need of a change of job.

I’ve never ever in my life had a pessimistic thought about anything! But now, whenever I think of something nice, my mind immediately says “hah, as if this is gonna work..” and once again I go “My Goodness! Was that me??” If you had read my previous post “Queen Of Procrastination’s New Year Resolution“, you would know how this negative attitude brought me down! Thankfully, am working on it, and the process is a lot better 🙂

I don’t procrastinate, I do everything on time these days!! I have taken up a few interesting activities, joined a few classes to learn something new, this blog is also one of those nice activities. 🙂 Although I have done and still am doing a lot of repair work, trying to bring all the pieces together; the ones that were shattered in 2014, I really felt scared.

The pessimist pops up every now and then.  What if it doesn’t work? Will I still be able to laugh again? Can I become what I wanted to become?

When I Forgot How To Laugh

At that very moment, when I felt like a loser, totally lost in my own misery and drowned in my flood of self pity..my best friend called and asked me “how are you?”. He said he missed talking to me and that we should meet over the weekend. Just when I felt lonely, broken and terrible, a best friend says he actually misses me. How wonderful is that? He had no idea that I was so upset, but he cracked too many jokes, made me laugh for half an hour without a break! He is one of the most humorous guys I’ve known and said he has absolutely no idea what he’s doing at work! well, I said “me too!” 😀 We shared all the stupid jokes that we would never tell anybody else, laughed at our own blunders. We laughed until our stomachs ached so hard!

The world does work in miraculous ways 🙂

I must tell you, I just can’t wait to meet my friend! I believe, I can laugh. I can make it right. Everything would work and the best efforts never go wasted.. In my mind, after that awesome chat, I said “Thank You my pal, for awakening the optimist sleeping within me and making me believe in myself.” 🙂

A friend in need is a friend indeed!

This post also happens to be my response to a daily prompt : A Friend in Need 🙂