Today In Short : #14 – What Happens When You Don’t Look Your Age

Hi !

You all may wonder what happened to me all these days, well I took some time off to sort things in my head. As you might know, this blog is all about sharing good memories, opinions that make a difference, positivity and optimism. Since I was a little upset and messed up, I wasn’t sure if I could share happy thoughts with you all. All I could think of was sad poetry, bitter experiences, and melancholy. :-/ Hence, this short break from the blogosphere! 🙂

Well, now am so geared up and I am all set to share about something that happened to me today : What Happens When You Don’t Look Your Age. 

If you have read my previous post : 20 Facts About Me, you would know that I look too young for my age. Many times I’ve not been taken seriously in shops and malls as the shop keepers think I’m some school kid, just looking around all the colorful things in the store. :-/

So, here’s the story:

Today In Short : #14 - What Happens When You Don't Look Your Age

I started playing badminton with the guys of my neighborhood this week. Since am new to this area, none of them knew me and I made a bunch of new friends and acquaintances in a couple of days. At first the guys and the girls talked to me formally (if someone is new to you, you prefer formal speech to address them). All of them were about 5-6 years younger than me while some were even 10 years younger! Unfortunately, they all thought I was younger than most of them! The youngest batch thought I  would be of their age group and addressed me in informal speech!!

In case you don’t know, you might wonder what is so alarming about that. Well, in Asian languages, unlike English, it is very important to address a person in formal speech if they are older than you. It is considered very disrespectful otherwise. So I was taken aback a little and said, “dear, I’m about 10 years older than you”. Upon hearing that, there was utter silence in the crew for a moment which was then followed by huge gasps and “really?? are you?? I cant believe it!”…  Sigh!

Alright that’s not a big deal. I thought it’s okay, it happens..

So, I took a few steps for damage control. In order to avoid further misconceptions, I wore suitable clothing and hairstyle hoping that people would then believe am a little older. But then, what happened later, left me dumbstruck!

Today, my mom visited me while I was playing. She looks her age of course! As I was talking to one of the guys there, he said “yeah, why don’t you play with your Granny?Wait. What?? Did he just think that my mom is my granny? And for the love of God, did he just say it out loud?? 😮

When I said, she is not my granny, she is my mom, he said, “I thought you’re a high schooler and so I thought she might be your granny!” Duh :-/

For that, a girl sitting next to me (a high schooler) said Oh! Please don’t you worry, people often mistake my age too. At times kids address me as aunty, they think am very old! It hurt me that once I even cried a river!

Oh Goodness! I am dumbfounded. Now, am so confused if I should be happy that I don’t look old…

Have you had such experiences? Did you feel this way too? Do you think looks really matter? Or, is it okay to be perceived younger/older than your actual age? Feel free to share your opinions in the comment box below. 

Tomorrow I will be updating a new story for Story Time With A Difference. So stay tuned!

~ Yuvathi 🙂

The Confused Young Adult

31 Day Blog Challenge : Day 2 – 20 Facts About Me!

Alright, as I said earlier, this blog challenge asks more questions about me, which is obviously difficult! The main reason being “who would want to read about me?” So I put down some of the 20 really interesting facts (well, I hope they are interesting) about me. Hope you don’t get bored! 🙂

31 Day Blog Challenge : Day 2 - 20 Facts About Me!

So, Here we go!

1.  Am left handed 

Whenever I say that, it is followed by a very weird question:

“you eat with left hand too??”

Well, duh, I do eat with left hand, because am left handed remember?? Here, eating with left hand is considered filthy and there are many many superstitions behind the left hand. I have had some really bad experiences because of this, about which I will write a detailed post some day.

2. I can write/draw with both hands simultaneously and both hand-writings look the same.

But yeah, point to be noted, I haven’t trained my brain yet to write different content simultaneously. I have a video of me writing like that somewhere,. but since this blog is anonymous, I would like to keep it that way.

3. It is almost impossible to make me angry.

The one aspect I love the most about myself is I can’t get angry at anyone easily nor can I hate people. If you had read my first day challenge post , you would know that my friends have been with me for a really long time. The reason being, I’ve never really fought with any of them. Even if I did, it would be for few minutes and not more. They have hurt me, sometimes even did blunders that almost damaged my career and education but still, what’s the point in getting angry?   So that’s how it goes.

My friends would never do anything intentionally to hurt me. If they did, then they are not even worth my anger. Others don’t deserve my anger nor my hatred while my friends are too precious to be hated as well!

But yes, there is only one person who can really make me angry, my one and only lovely “mom”. 🙂  In my opinion she is someone with whom I can get angry, shed my ego, cry, scream and laugh with. 

4. Am talkative yet quiet

This is one thing that I hate and love about myself. Most people think am the biggest chatterbox but the truth is I talk too less. But when I do, I talk so energetically with everyone, that people think I am talkative. Well, not actually.

5. Shopping takes 10 minutes and Not More.

I can’t shop for more than 10 minutes. I can’t stay in a shop any longer looking for better outfits. I always decide what I want before entering a store and buy only that and get out! Any extra minute is a waste of time! Well, please don’t take me for company if you love shopping! 😀

6. I read anything, everything.

Well, at one point of time I enjoyed reading my engineering textbooks. Well, who does that for time pass? I did 😮

7. I learnt to use scissors just this week.

Well, that sounds weird, I know. Most probably it is because of my left handedness. I bought some special pair of scissors that really does the magic. So, yeah am surrounded by colorful craft paper these days 😀

8. I hate swearing

If you’ve noticed, I never use any of the foul words. Neither in my mother tongue nor in English; I never write, shout or murmur under my breath. Is that a good thing? I don’t know. I just don’t. It just saves me from public embarrassment I believe.

9. I love South East Asian languages

My first love is Korean. I found the language so fascinating that I learnt to read, write and speak (a little) too. Currently am learning Japanese. God, it’s an ocean! Apart from that I speak 3-4 Asian languages quite fluently. 🙂

10. I like nerds

I enjoy the company of a nerd (in a good way). I find them interesting and I feel connected easily.

11. Library – the only place I love to visit

The only place where I can go crazy and excited all at once is a library. I love libraries.!!! And of course, a book store, book fairs, anything related to books are fascinating and exciting!

12. I truly hate my senior school and college days (although I cherish a few moments)

Usually people love their senior school days or their time at college. But I truly hate both. I learnt some of the best lessons in the most bitter ways during those days. Lessons for a life time!

13. I love summer; I have never seen snow!

Actually, we hardly have winter and of course no snow at all. Which means I’ve seen snow only in pictures! 😮 But yeah, even the slightest winter that we have here, I dislike. Summer is of course quite hot about  35–40 °C and I literally love roaming in the sun (which is weird, I know)

14. I look too small for my age

Well, people think am very young. Younger than my actual age and so I often don’t receive the respect I deserve for age in formal speech!! 😮 I hate that!! You see, in Asian languages, elders are given respect in formal speech, not like English which is very neutral to all age groups!

15. I enjoy reading Self-help books and Philosophy

Yeah that’s my favorite genre. I can read all day long. 🙂

16. I get along well with guys than girls

I am not a tomboy. But I have very few girl friends. I wonder why!

17. I wrote my first poem in class 8

I never knew I could write stuff until class 8, especially poetry. I participated in an on-the-spot poetry writing competition which is when I got to know I could write too! 🙂

18. Computer programming and logical thinking is my area

By now you would have come to conclusion that am a nerd, yeah.. I’m a little., yes 😀 So am not elaborating this point anymore. 😀

19. Omg, this is hard!

I must tell you this is the hardest toughest piece I’ve ever written! Seriously, I’m sorry for putting you through this trouble!!

20. I’m flattered that you read this!! Bless ya!

If you really read this, Oh goodness, Bless you once again. 😀

Thank you for stopping by and reading. 🙂 Especially, a bow for your patience! 😀