Sometimes You Need To Let Go..

Life is just a collection of memories made by the collaboration of people who cross paths with us during the journey. Of people who are total strangers, best friends, family and acquaintances. Some remain by our side through the crests and troughs, some are mere passing clouds while some are merciless invincible hurricanes, that uproot every last thing we have and take them along with them…leaving behind nothing.

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The ones who stay by our side no matter what happens are our blessing. But what can we do about the rest of the people?

Should we run behind them, chase them and beg them to stay? Is it possible? Even if it were possible, is it worth?

What about those who misunderstand us? What about those who don’t care how we feel no matter how many times we try our best to explain ourselves?

Should we try to make them understand? Do we really need to explain ourselves? Is it worth all the pain and effort??

Last but not the least, what about those who deceive us? The ones we trusted blindly but left us shattered and heart broken? Should we be angry with them forever?

Does anger serve any purpose? Especially when the person has already left, does it impact anyone else other than ourselves? Or, should we go for a revenge?

Does revenge put the broken pieces of our heart back together and heal the scars?

It might be difficult to digest. It might be heavy on the chest, choking the throat, aching the heart and straining the eyes from breaking into a flood of tears… But the best thing we could do for ourselves is to let go..

Let go of the people who left and keep their memories,

While letting go of the bad memories and keeping the good ones.

Let go of all the pain and keep the joy.

Because you deserve happiness. You deserve to live a peaceful life. 

Let go.. Move on.

Be Kind to everyone. Be kind to yourself too.

~Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

The Confused Young Adult

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My Life In The 1900s!

Well.. I thought am going to be back to the blogging world with a bang and introduced a series called The 4-Line Motivation Series and then Mother Nature couldn’t take it anymore. She got so furious that she came back with a bang too and literally destroyed our city with a terribly huge cyclone and heavy rain!

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And, that’s how I went back to the 1900s! 😀

  • We didn’t have electricity for an entire week. So many trees had fallen down and many transformers were destroyed by the heavy winds and rain.
  • No water because we couldn’t run the bore-well motor.
  • No source of news/entertainment because obviously the TV didn’t work.
  • No source of communication because all networks were down.
  • Even if there was a weak signal, our phones’ batteries died.
  • No lights, fans or air-conditioning as the UPS died down after few hours.
  • We couldn’t inform our worried relatives and friends that we were safe.

Nothing with the latest technologies was functioning, it was like the darkest of times. The days were short, so there was not much sunlight and it was cold all the time. Had we had such experiences before, I think we would have handled it better. If you have read my earlier posts, you would know that I come from a place where 24°C is considered as winter! No Kidding! We hardly have winter and we always have bright sunlight all the time! 

So the cyclone was hard to handle as it was all so new for us.

It was like we were going back in time!

But it was really so much fun and awesome!

Time Travel – Here’s My Life In The 1900’s.. 😉

  • We drew water from the well manually. Yes, we did!
  • Everyone in our apartment came together to help each other! We made pulleys using ropes to pull up the water buckets to different floors in the apartment. One would draw the water, others would stand in line to pass the buckets and pull them over to various floors in the building through stairs!
  • We had to clear the blocked roads and couldn’t wait for someone else to do it for us. We took our own equipment and cleared the fallen trees by cutting them down manually and moving them off the roads.
  • Since we had no internet or TV, we all had great family time.
  • In the meantime, apart from all the physical work; I read several books! I read at least one book a day, which is nearly 400 pages a day! (Awesome right?!)
  • In order to save the candle light, we all sat in the same room all the time. We sat together for dinners and teas. We were seeing each other’s face while talking and not our phones for text messages.
  • We washed clothes and dishes sitting next to the well in the backyard (just like the olden days!)
  • We used Water like Liquid Gold!!!
  • We helped people in our neighboring apartments by sharing the water from our well. We had so much social networking going on without internet!
  • The news about the weather, power and network availability was shared from street to street through word of mouth just like the early 20th century!! 😀
  • Most importantly, we all went to bed by 8 pm! (well there’s nothing much to do in the dark, and the peace and quiet makes you sleep like a newborn puppy!)

The list is endless!

Living in the 1900’s was not so bad. In fact I was very comfortable without phone, internet and electricity. Wish we had battery-run radio just for weather updates and news. We have become so dependent on our smartphones and laptops that we didn’t even think about a blackout and emergency equipment. It was a wake up call. 🙂

Well well.. everything is back to normal now. I literally had to fight with the network service provider to fix my phone and internet connection and finally all is well!

In 2015 December, we were struck by heavy floods and 2016 December we faced a terrible cyclone. Hope 2017 would be calmer and peaceful.

Wish you all a wonderful New Year’s Eve.

~Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

The Confused Young Adult

 

You Can’t Be Nice To Everybody!

Yes, you read the title right. You can’t be “nice” to “everybody“.

We all try our best to be nice to everyone around us. It is a natural human tendency to want to be liked by everybody. We don’t want anybody saying mean things about us behind our backs, we don’t want conflicts., after all we are peace loving creatures and all that’s natural.

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Being  nice to people in general is good manners. We should not be disrespectful and rude to anybody and am not talking about that kind of “nice”. This is different.

Sometimes you need to

  • put your foot down and say NO!
  • raise your voice, speak up and stick to your principles and ethics.
  • differentiate the good and the bad, and move out if you know you can’t change the bad!

Yes, you definitely should do all these at some point of time or the other and that’s how you end up being not nice to “everyone”, but to those you care, like and those that support your principles and love you for who you are!

I have colleague who I believed is the nicest person ever! But honestly, he is just so nice to “everybody”. The more I know him, the more I feel he is not real. I feel that his friendship and care is not true, because he supports both sides of people even when he knows one of them is wrong! He doesn’t tell them they are wrong, he never puts his foot down when people say mean things, he doesn’t ever go up against people even if they are not nice to him. He would change topics, lighten the moments, and move along. Not a single conflict ever. He might be a great person to work with, but I would never trust him with my friendship because for me, friendship is all about loyalty, honesty and transparency.

That’s what happens if you are nice to everybody.

If you say you are nice to everybody, it means you are not real. 

Sometimes, a little bit of criticism and hatred from others reminds you that you’re on the right track. If you’re not being criticized then you are doing something wrong!

You Just Can’t Be Nice To Everybody! 🙂

Don’t worry if someone dislikes you. If you know you were doing the right thing, you’re being real. You’re being You. People will love you for who you really are and they are the ones you should care about.

Have A Cheerful Weekend!

~Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

The Confused Young Adult

Is It Okay To Be Unhappy?

You can’t smile all the time. Life is not always a bed of roses. Sometimes the thorn peeps out, more so often many thorns peep out and hurt you until you bleed. It is okay, it happens. It is okay to be unhappy.

Yes, it is 100% okay not to be okay!

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Do you know what is not okay?

Not admitting the fact that you are unhappy! Hiding your sadness and trying to fool yourself and the people around you.. Well, that is cruelty that you impose on yourself. If you are sad, let it out. Talk to your friend or family about it. If you don’t want people to hear it, then write it down in your diary, tear it, burn it, or blog about it, publish it, trash it. It’s all your choice. You have many options! If nothing works, cry out loud. Sometimes all you need is to melt your heart’s heaviness with some tears. It is okay to cry too!

But make sure, you let it ALL out. Don’t let failure and sadness rule you. You are the Queen/King of your life. It has to move the way you want it.

Sometimes your life becomes rebellious. It doesn’t let you take the lead. Well, why should you let your guard down?

Stay strong. Be as rebellious as you can.

Fight back. Fall down. But don’t forget to get up. Dust your shoulders.

With your head held high, Fight again.

Do you know why I’m writing about this now?

I have been going through a really rough time at home and at work. Really rough. But I didn’t hide it, I let it out. There’s no point in hiding it all and carrying it in your heart. Thanks to my friends, family, my blog and diary. I have been holding up and fighting back. Although it takes more of one’s own effort, it is always lovely to have people around you, who support and cheer you through everything.

I must tell you, it is so relieving once you admit the fact that you are having a tough time and that you are hurt and feeling low.

Sometimes I would lose all hope and go to bed with a heavy heart. Few times I wept to my heart’s relief. But the next morning I would wake up, dress up well, look in the mirror and tell myself, “I can do it”, “I will fight back”.

It is okay to be unhappy. Just don’t let it hold you back from doing what you want to do and being who you really want to be. Live your life. Don’t waste it.

~Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

The Confused Young Adult

Do You Judge A Person Based On Their Posts On Social Media?

We all know that before employing someone, most organizations not only do background checks on the potential employee’s educational qualification, previous employers’ details, crime records, etc; they also check their social media pages to know what kind of person they really are! Also, many people have been fired for updating inappropriate posts on their social media pages! So, that’s what employers do in order to maintain a healthy, productive and safe work environment.

Do You Judge A Person Based On Their Posts On Social Media

But the question is, “Do you judge someone based on what they post on social media?

If your answer is “Yes”, then don’t worry. You are not alone!

If you ask me whether I do…. “Oh yeah, Totally!” Especially if it’s a guy that I’m interested in… Definitely yes!

I get to know if the guy is a psychopath or an idiot who posts any hoax that pops on the internet or a self-obsessed selfie maniac or a pathetic guy who plays candy crush all the time…. Duh. :-/

I must admit that checking some of the guys’ social media pages have actually saved me many times from messing up! I believe that I can get to know a lot about a person by skimming through their posts for 5 minutes than from a 20 minute – full length conversation with them over a cup of coffee!

It is like reading someone’s autobiography written without any edits, filters or exaggeration!

Your posts reflect who you are… what you like, re-tweet, share and comment, everything matters!

It’s not just you and me, it happens with almost everyone.

So, here’s a kind note:

The next time you post something on your social media page, take a minute – think, and hit the upload button. Update your privacy settings – you don’t want just anybody to trespass and judge you!

I have a decent privacy setting and limited contacts/friends/followings on my social media pages because I don’t want to be some easily available open book to be skimmed through anybody’s will!

If you think you are a really careful “poster”, then cool! 🙂 

If not, OMG Wake up!! Keep up!!! 😀

And.. Of course, enjoy skimming and judging through every other’s page.

Oh heyyy! Don’t you judge me for doing that!

It’s not trespassing unless you walk (hack) through someone’s protected private property! Right?! 😮

And of course! I am just improving my GK on people and trying to understand them and also saving myself from some potential danger.. 😉

If you resonate with my thoughts, please feel free to share this post on your social media pages!

If you don’t.. well then please feel free to share this post on your pages and write your comments on why you don’t down below! 😉

Happy Weekend!

~Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

The Confused Young Adult

Over-Possessiveness Can Kill A Relationship!

Being possessive is cute. Yes, when someone is possessive about you, you realize how much you mean to them. It shows you that they don’t want to lose you no matter what! Of course, that’s really sweet! Isn’t it?
But too much of anything is dangerous. It is definitely true when it comes to possessiveness too!

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Recently, I almost broke up with my best friend because he was too threatened by my interest for another guy! Yes, my best friend was feeling scared that he might lose me to my new “crush”. He was afraid that I wouldn’t spend time with him just because I thought this new guy was hot!

Woah….Right?

Who would ever stop spending time with their best friend! Actually, the best friend usually forms the support system. He is supposed to be the one helping me with the timing and catchy dialogues and stuff…right?

But that didn’t happen.

Instead he was so threatened and over-possessive that I lost interest on my new-found crush and had a bitter taste in my friendship too. I couldn’t take his constant nagging anymore. I almost broke up with my bestie! But anyway, we talked it all out and we are back together as BFF’s and my crush is seeing someone else now.. *Damn It*

So, here’s a request – small piece of advice from a victim of over-possessiveness to the rest of the world :

Caging a bird is never a good idea. The bird is meant to fly high and not to be strangled in a cage. The moment it finds a gap, it will definitely fly away!

Let it free, take good care and it will fly back to you because you are the home in this whole wide world.

If you love someone, it is okay to be possessive. But please have some confidence about your relationship! Understand that whoever has to stay, will definitely stay with you. If they don’t, then they were never meant to be!

Do not kill what you have because you’re too afraid of losing it. If you constantly fear..you will definitely lose it anyway! So, please take good care of what you have. Enjoy and love with all your heart!

Be the sweet home for your loved ones.
Don’t ever be a cruel cage.

Live and let live.
~Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

Pranking Is Good. Bullying Is Not. Learn The Difference.

It has been a trend to pull a crazy prank on someone, make a video of it and upload it on YouTube, Facebook and other social media networks. I enjoy watching them too!

My friends are wonderful pranksters and I love being in their company because you never know what they are going to do next, and it is always a funny and pleasant experience 🙂 And, if you are a regular visitor of my blog, you would know that I strongly stand against bullying.

Today, I thought it is high time I put down my words about the difference between a smart prankster and a sadistic bully.

Pranking Is Good. Bullying Is Not. Learn The Difference.

The best example of a hilarious, intelligent and awesome prank in my opinion would be the recent “zombie attack” prank, pulled by a girl’s two lovely brothers and mom, on her way home when she was on anesthesia (apparently a bit high) after pulling out her wisdom tooth. Such an amazing prank that it went viral on the internet and her family was also invited on the Ellen Show!

If you haven’t watched it, check out this video link right here!

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So, that’s how a prank should be. Funny, Intelligent and absolutely Memorable.

But these days, most people are getting confused between a prankster and a bully.

If your prank hurts someone physically/mentally/emotionally, then it is not a Prank.

It is called Bullying.

And anyone who laughs at someone’s pain is not a nice human.

He is a sadist. 

Recently, I saw a video with a caption saying “haha very funny” and in it, was a girl celebrating her birthday and when she was about to blow the candles, a moron – (the guy sitting next to her) smashed her face right into the cake.

That Is Not Funny At All.

I saw another video of an Ultimate Bully, who thinks he is a cool prankster! He takes his sister’s new iPhone, drops it right in front of her eyes and breaks it, tears a few pages from his grandma’s favorite book, masturbates in front of his laptop in the living room when his mom comes home, oh God, the list of his horrendous activities is endless.

After watching it, I wondered if this guy is even in his right mind? Or does he have some mental disorder? I don’t know.

If you pull a prank, both the prankster and the Prankee (hoping that’s a word) should be able to think about it later and have a good laugh. It should not hurt anyone’s feelings/body.

Before pulling a prank, think “Would I like it if someone does this to me? Would I be hurt? Would I hate them after this?

Think twice, putting yourself in their shoes.

Be a nice and lovingly funny Human Being and NOT a Sadistic Moron.

~ Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

The Confused Young Adult

Time Moves On. So Does Life.

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I still remember the day…
Crying my heart out,
Sitting in this very same room,
Listening to the album am listening to right now…

The music is a memento,
That heartache is just a memory now
It is all just a time long gone..

That’s how life is.
Time just moves on.
So does Life.
For better sunshine & rainbows. 🙂

~Yuvathi 🙂 ❤
The Confused Young Adult

Honestly, Nobody Really Cares About The Coffee Stain On Your Shirt!

When we pour some coffee on our shirt by mistake, we go crazy because the stain would look ugly and everybody might notice it. We feel embarrassed even before actually getting embarrassed. Especially if it happens when we are at work!  We rush to the restroom and wash the stain over and over until it almost vanishes, and yet we will be worried that there is still the mark of the coffee stain and people might notice it!

But seriously, Nobody Really Cares Or Notices The Coffee Stain As Much As You Do!!!

Honestly, Nobody Really Cares About Th Coffee Stain On Your T-Shirt

Do you know why? Because it is the most insignificant detail and even if they notice, people wouldn’t care because it happens to “everyone”!

The same happens if you trip and fall on the floor! People generally don’t care about how you fell. They would only be worried about you if you are hurt!

People tend to empathize and support each other in most situations, although there are a few sadists; but why should we care about the sadists anyway?

People around me are always surprised because I hardly bother about what people think about me. I wouldn’t mind putting my hair into a bun or wear loose clothes to work on a sunny day. I wouldn’t mind wearing a sweater when the A/C is too high for me! I think about my comfort and health first over others’ opinion about it!

Why should we all spoil our peace of mind by caring about others who are also spoiling theirs for the same reason? I always tell my friends “Make sure you put your happiness and your health first. Then comes others and their opinions”.

If you know you are doing the right thing and yet you are afraid to do because of what others might think about you, here’s a word :

People Actually Don’t Care As Much As You Think They Do!

The moment you stop thinking about others’ opinions, you serve yourself with unlimited freedom to live an independent, fearless and happy life.

Happy Weekend!

~Yuvathi  🙂

– The Confused Young Adult

If You Can’t Keep A Secret, Don’t Expect Others To Keep It As Well!

How many times have you told someone your heart’s closest secret or a personal story in the belief that they will keep it a secret too?

And in that, how many times have you been shattered when they broke your trust?

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This happens to almost everyone.

It has happened tons of times to me too! Mostly, I trusted the wrong person all through the year, quite oblivious of the fact that every word of all the secrets I shared was known to everyone around me!

Well, just like all humans I was torn apart when I got to know about it. I thought I was stupid for being so naive. For some time, I lost my belief in true friendship and trust.

But we just can’t stop trusting people.. Right?

Life is a matter of faith and belief after all..

If we trust we get hurt.

If we don’t trust, then there is no point in living at all!

So then, how can we prevent ourselves from getting hurt?

Here’s is a simple solution :

1. Stop being a drama queen!

Every time I tell something confidential, personal or a seemingly secretive information to someone, I always keep in mind of the vicious probability.

Yes, the probability that someday I will receive the very same information – a highly exaggerated version of the same matter from some random stranger!

This can help you to remain calm and not create a ruckus when the situation gets out of hand! You are mentally prepared for it. So it won’t damage you emotionally!

2. DON’T use the same old dialogue

“Please don’t tell anyone else. Let this be between us”

Yeah, you know why? That’s because the moment you tell someone NOT to think about a monkey — they can think of Nothing Else but a Monkey!!! So just don’t do it. Instead analyse if you are okay with the vicious probability. If you think you are not prepared, then simply keep your mouth shut!

If You Can’t Keep A Secret,
Don’t Expect Others To Keep It As Well!