The 4-Line Motivation Series #1

Aannndd.. Here it is! The first post of the series 🙂

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If you like it, pin it, share it, tweet it! Spread some positivity 🙂

Have a great day!!!

~Yuvathi

The Confused Young Adult

Announcement! 2 Year Anniversary and New Series!!

Hello there!

Can you believe it has been two years since the birth of this blog?!

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Yes, Two Years ago, I had no idea where I was standing in my life. I was so lost. I must admit, I still am. So lost and confused, but I’m now wiser than I was, I believe. 😉

I would like to thank every one of you who motivated me in this journey. You, my readers and my fellow bloggers, your words encouraged me to see life in bright light. Gave me the strength to move on.

As a thank you gift, I’m now starting a series called “The 4-Line Motivation Series”

I hope to post a personal motivation quote every day or at least once a week, as often as I can. The daily dose of motivation for all of us move on, fight back, love ourselves and live our life 🙂

Thank you once again 🙂

Love,

~Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

The Confused Young Adult

You Can’t Be Nice To Everybody!

Yes, you read the title right. You can’t be “nice” to “everybody“.

We all try our best to be nice to everyone around us. It is a natural human tendency to want to be liked by everybody. We don’t want anybody saying mean things about us behind our backs, we don’t want conflicts., after all we are peace loving creatures and all that’s natural.

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Being  nice to people in general is good manners. We should not be disrespectful and rude to anybody and am not talking about that kind of “nice”. This is different.

Sometimes you need to

  • put your foot down and say NO!
  • raise your voice, speak up and stick to your principles and ethics.
  • differentiate the good and the bad, and move out if you know you can’t change the bad!

Yes, you definitely should do all these at some point of time or the other and that’s how you end up being not nice to “everyone”, but to those you care, like and those that support your principles and love you for who you are!

I have colleague who I believed is the nicest person ever! But honestly, he is just so nice to “everybody”. The more I know him, the more I feel he is not real. I feel that his friendship and care is not true, because he supports both sides of people even when he knows one of them is wrong! He doesn’t tell them they are wrong, he never puts his foot down when people say mean things, he doesn’t ever go up against people even if they are not nice to him. He would change topics, lighten the moments, and move along. Not a single conflict ever. He might be a great person to work with, but I would never trust him with my friendship because for me, friendship is all about loyalty, honesty and transparency.

That’s what happens if you are nice to everybody.

If you say you are nice to everybody, it means you are not real. 

Sometimes, a little bit of criticism and hatred from others reminds you that you’re on the right track. If you’re not being criticized then you are doing something wrong!

You Just Can’t Be Nice To Everybody! 🙂

Don’t worry if someone dislikes you. If you know you were doing the right thing, you’re being real. You’re being You. People will love you for who you really are and they are the ones you should care about.

Have A Cheerful Weekend!

~Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

The Confused Young Adult

Is It Okay To Be Unhappy?

You can’t smile all the time. Life is not always a bed of roses. Sometimes the thorn peeps out, more so often many thorns peep out and hurt you until you bleed. It is okay, it happens. It is okay to be unhappy.

Yes, it is 100% okay not to be okay!

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Do you know what is not okay?

Not admitting the fact that you are unhappy! Hiding your sadness and trying to fool yourself and the people around you.. Well, that is cruelty that you impose on yourself. If you are sad, let it out. Talk to your friend or family about it. If you don’t want people to hear it, then write it down in your diary, tear it, burn it, or blog about it, publish it, trash it. It’s all your choice. You have many options! If nothing works, cry out loud. Sometimes all you need is to melt your heart’s heaviness with some tears. It is okay to cry too!

But make sure, you let it ALL out. Don’t let failure and sadness rule you. You are the Queen/King of your life. It has to move the way you want it.

Sometimes your life becomes rebellious. It doesn’t let you take the lead. Well, why should you let your guard down?

Stay strong. Be as rebellious as you can.

Fight back. Fall down. But don’t forget to get up. Dust your shoulders.

With your head held high, Fight again.

Do you know why I’m writing about this now?

I have been going through a really rough time at home and at work. Really rough. But I didn’t hide it, I let it out. There’s no point in hiding it all and carrying it in your heart. Thanks to my friends, family, my blog and diary. I have been holding up and fighting back. Although it takes more of one’s own effort, it is always lovely to have people around you, who support and cheer you through everything.

I must tell you, it is so relieving once you admit the fact that you are having a tough time and that you are hurt and feeling low.

Sometimes I would lose all hope and go to bed with a heavy heart. Few times I wept to my heart’s relief. But the next morning I would wake up, dress up well, look in the mirror and tell myself, “I can do it”, “I will fight back”.

It is okay to be unhappy. Just don’t let it hold you back from doing what you want to do and being who you really want to be. Live your life. Don’t waste it.

~Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

The Confused Young Adult

New Blog : The Daily Dare!

Hello My Dear Bloggers and Followers!

I have an announcement!

Yessss, it’s a new blog : The Daily Dare!

The Daily Dare is a site where I post a dare everyday. I dare myself and the readers to do it. Mostly the word “dare” is used for doing things that are out of the way – rule-breaking-nonsensical-activities.

For a change, am going to use the term “dare”, to create a positive effect on me and you as an individual. 

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The blog is all about progress, the slow and steady metamorphosis of mental well being.  I wish to create a platform for all readers and fellow bloggers to take part in healthy dares everyday.

I wish that each one of us could challenge ourselves to be a better version of who we were yesterday!

Are you ready for the dare? Do you wish to join me on this venture?

If yes, click the link below, Follow, Subscribe and stay on track with this confused young adult’s journey towards betterment and consistent development!

Link : The Daily Dare

The Confused Young Adult

~ Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

Do You Judge A Person Based On Their Posts On Social Media?

We all know that before employing someone, most organizations not only do background checks on the potential employee’s educational qualification, previous employers’ details, crime records, etc; they also check their social media pages to know what kind of person they really are! Also, many people have been fired for updating inappropriate posts on their social media pages! So, that’s what employers do in order to maintain a healthy, productive and safe work environment.

Do You Judge A Person Based On Their Posts On Social Media

But the question is, “Do you judge someone based on what they post on social media?

If your answer is “Yes”, then don’t worry. You are not alone!

If you ask me whether I do…. “Oh yeah, Totally!” Especially if it’s a guy that I’m interested in… Definitely yes!

I get to know if the guy is a psychopath or an idiot who posts any hoax that pops on the internet or a self-obsessed selfie maniac or a pathetic guy who plays candy crush all the time…. Duh. :-/

I must admit that checking some of the guys’ social media pages have actually saved me many times from messing up! I believe that I can get to know a lot about a person by skimming through their posts for 5 minutes than from a 20 minute – full length conversation with them over a cup of coffee!

It is like reading someone’s autobiography written without any edits, filters or exaggeration!

Your posts reflect who you are… what you like, re-tweet, share and comment, everything matters!

It’s not just you and me, it happens with almost everyone.

So, here’s a kind note:

The next time you post something on your social media page, take a minute – think, and hit the upload button. Update your privacy settings – you don’t want just anybody to trespass and judge you!

I have a decent privacy setting and limited contacts/friends/followings on my social media pages because I don’t want to be some easily available open book to be skimmed through anybody’s will!

If you think you are a really careful “poster”, then cool! 🙂 

If not, OMG Wake up!! Keep up!!! 😀

And.. Of course, enjoy skimming and judging through every other’s page.

Oh heyyy! Don’t you judge me for doing that!

It’s not trespassing unless you walk (hack) through someone’s protected private property! Right?! 😮

And of course! I am just improving my GK on people and trying to understand them and also saving myself from some potential danger.. 😉

If you resonate with my thoughts, please feel free to share this post on your social media pages!

If you don’t.. well then please feel free to share this post on your pages and write your comments on why you don’t down below! 😉

Happy Weekend!

~Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

The Confused Young Adult

Over-Possessiveness Can Kill A Relationship!

Being possessive is cute. Yes, when someone is possessive about you, you realize how much you mean to them. It shows you that they don’t want to lose you no matter what! Of course, that’s really sweet! Isn’t it?
But too much of anything is dangerous. It is definitely true when it comes to possessiveness too!

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Recently, I almost broke up with my best friend because he was too threatened by my interest for another guy! Yes, my best friend was feeling scared that he might lose me to my new “crush”. He was afraid that I wouldn’t spend time with him just because I thought this new guy was hot!

Woah….Right?

Who would ever stop spending time with their best friend! Actually, the best friend usually forms the support system. He is supposed to be the one helping me with the timing and catchy dialogues and stuff…right?

But that didn’t happen.

Instead he was so threatened and over-possessive that I lost interest on my new-found crush and had a bitter taste in my friendship too. I couldn’t take his constant nagging anymore. I almost broke up with my bestie! But anyway, we talked it all out and we are back together as BFF’s and my crush is seeing someone else now.. *Damn It*

So, here’s a request – small piece of advice from a victim of over-possessiveness to the rest of the world :

Caging a bird is never a good idea. The bird is meant to fly high and not to be strangled in a cage. The moment it finds a gap, it will definitely fly away!

Let it free, take good care and it will fly back to you because you are the home in this whole wide world.

If you love someone, it is okay to be possessive. But please have some confidence about your relationship! Understand that whoever has to stay, will definitely stay with you. If they don’t, then they were never meant to be!

Do not kill what you have because you’re too afraid of losing it. If you constantly fear..you will definitely lose it anyway! So, please take good care of what you have. Enjoy and love with all your heart!

Be the sweet home for your loved ones.
Don’t ever be a cruel cage.

Live and let live.
~Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

The Tug Of War – Heart vs Head

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My heart says Yes,
My head says No!
What do I do?
I really don’t know!

I put them on a scale
They’re balanced as Heaven and Hell
I never knew they could put on a show!

I know it’s a tough road
Not for the faint hearted;
But it’s also the one
I wish and dare to tread!

The safer side?
Or all fears aside?
Well, Am going to just let it all slide!

Am going to fall
And move along the flow
For whatever has to happen, will happen
As this Tug Of War has just begun!

Fingers Crossed##

~Yuvathi❤:)

The Confused Young Adult

Pranking Is Good. Bullying Is Not. Learn The Difference.

It has been a trend to pull a crazy prank on someone, make a video of it and upload it on YouTube, Facebook and other social media networks. I enjoy watching them too!

My friends are wonderful pranksters and I love being in their company because you never know what they are going to do next, and it is always a funny and pleasant experience 🙂 And, if you are a regular visitor of my blog, you would know that I strongly stand against bullying.

Today, I thought it is high time I put down my words about the difference between a smart prankster and a sadistic bully.

Pranking Is Good. Bullying Is Not. Learn The Difference.

The best example of a hilarious, intelligent and awesome prank in my opinion would be the recent “zombie attack” prank, pulled by a girl’s two lovely brothers and mom, on her way home when she was on anesthesia (apparently a bit high) after pulling out her wisdom tooth. Such an amazing prank that it went viral on the internet and her family was also invited on the Ellen Show!

If you haven’t watched it, check out this video link right here!

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So, that’s how a prank should be. Funny, Intelligent and absolutely Memorable.

But these days, most people are getting confused between a prankster and a bully.

If your prank hurts someone physically/mentally/emotionally, then it is not a Prank.

It is called Bullying.

And anyone who laughs at someone’s pain is not a nice human.

He is a sadist. 

Recently, I saw a video with a caption saying “haha very funny” and in it, was a girl celebrating her birthday and when she was about to blow the candles, a moron – (the guy sitting next to her) smashed her face right into the cake.

That Is Not Funny At All.

I saw another video of an Ultimate Bully, who thinks he is a cool prankster! He takes his sister’s new iPhone, drops it right in front of her eyes and breaks it, tears a few pages from his grandma’s favorite book, masturbates in front of his laptop in the living room when his mom comes home, oh God, the list of his horrendous activities is endless.

After watching it, I wondered if this guy is even in his right mind? Or does he have some mental disorder? I don’t know.

If you pull a prank, both the prankster and the Prankee (hoping that’s a word) should be able to think about it later and have a good laugh. It should not hurt anyone’s feelings/body.

Before pulling a prank, think “Would I like it if someone does this to me? Would I be hurt? Would I hate them after this?

Think twice, putting yourself in their shoes.

Be a nice and lovingly funny Human Being and NOT a Sadistic Moron.

~ Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

The Confused Young Adult

Time Moves On. So Does Life.

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I still remember the day…
Crying my heart out,
Sitting in this very same room,
Listening to the album am listening to right now…

The music is a memento,
That heartache is just a memory now
It is all just a time long gone..

That’s how life is.
Time just moves on.
So does Life.
For better sunshine & rainbows. 🙂

~Yuvathi 🙂 ❤
The Confused Young Adult