What Do You Do To Avoid Doing/Saying Mean Things When You Are Angry?

Most of us make the biggest of blunders when we are angry. The recent incident about a girl littering her boyfriend’s car with sanitary pads is one of the craziest news I have ever read on the internet. She thought he was having an affair, while he was actually out – planning a surprise birthday party for her. Oh dear… :-/

This reminds me of a wonderful adage that my mother often states in our mother tongue:

An Angry Man Is Never Smart.

How often have you done something miserable out of utter rage and regretted it? How many times did you wish you never said those words to your dear ones? How badly have you hurt your loved ones with your angry meaningless words and deeds and hated yourself forever?

What Do You Do To Avoid Doing/Saying Mean Things When You Are Angry?
What Do You Do To Avoid Doing/Saying Mean Things When You Are Angry?

Once the damage is done; the relationship is never the same. You may patch up, but there is always the scar.

How can you avoid this? Prevention is better then cure. But nobody is Jesus Christ or Mahatma Gandhi. We all do have our temper and limits. I can’t tell you not to get angry. But one can always learn to manage the situation and handle the temper.

Here are some of the healthy ways that I have heard of / follow myself.

  • Some have the habit of drinking several glasses of water when they are angry. That’s one of the healthiest ways I would suggest. It cools you down physically as well as mentally. It also doesn’t give you the opportunity to say mean things because you are busy gulping down the water!
  • Take a shower or shut the door and take a nap. Now, that’s my favorite! A nap might sound like a difficult idea, but it does wonders. It helps the brain to relax and gives piece of mind. It creates the space to re-think as the heat of the moment is gone and you get to analyze the situation in a different light!
  • Write down all those words in your journal or on a piece of paper, and destroy – burn/shred it later. Yes, I do that when am about to lose my temper. I have a separate notebook where I pour my heart out when am upset. Most of the times, when I re-read those words, I feel so glad that I didn’t carelessly utter them. Remember, destroying it is very important. You don’t want the other person to read it by chance! You don’t want those mean words around you either.
  • Go for a long drive or a walk. If you can’t stay in the same space as the other person, you can always walk away for sometime and come back when your mind is clear.

Some of the important DONT’S!

  • Never ever post things on social networking sites when you are mad. Moreover, advertising your meanness is also not a great idea. It might be a way to get back at the other person or might seem like an outlet for you, but for the world it would be “popcorn time“!
  • Do not blog about it either. Even if you write one, do not publish it immediately. Come back after a day or two. You might thank yourself for not publishing it! ( I have trashed a few drafts myself!)
  • Don’t go and grumble all the details to a third person and create a chaos. It is not going to help you in any way. Drama should be on stage. Not in real life!
  • Do not text, call, e-mail that person right away. Once you hit the send button, it is over and done! So stay away from communication tech and apps until you calm down.

Those are some of my favorite ideas. Do you have any other interesting ways to avoid doing/saying mean things when you are angry? 

Feel free to share them in the comment box below! 🙂

~ Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

The Confused Young Adult

Blogging From A to Z Challenge [April 2015] – Theme Release

Hi Everyone, I had enrolled for this challenge about a month ago. At that time, I wasn’t sure if I was going to do it. But now I really really want to be a part of it! Blogging A-Z Challenge [April 2015] The challenge is that we have to post something everyday in the month of April from A to Z, on a particular theme! Yes, except Sundays, all 26 days, 26 alphabets! Cool, right? 😀 And today is the theme release day! And I have decided the theme:

Emotions and Feelings

Since my blog already deals with the same concept, am going to choose an emotion/feeling for each alphabet and write a post everyday! It could be a poem, a story for Story Time With A Difference or a riddle for Guess Who Am I? or an everyday event post for Today In Short!! Howzzaatt!! 🙂

Am super super excited! I just can’t wait until April!

There are over 1000 bloggers who have signed up for this challenge. If you too wish to be a part of it, then click the following link and Sign Up right away! 🙂 Link : Blogging From A to Z Challenge [April 2015]  ~ Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

Today In Short : #12 – World Poetry Day!

Today is World Poetry Day!

How about a tribute to Poetry?! A poem about poetry from A to Z! Here we go! 🙂

Today In Short : #12 - World Poetry Day!

A lot to say,

But I’ve Not Many Words To Utter;

Caught in Silence, Shock, Surprise and Joy,

Desperate – in need of a way to communicate with

Endless thoughts rushing through my brain

For I do not know where to begin and explain!

Given the chance to speak my mind,

Having my vocabulary in vain; Oh no!

I‘m so lost in the sea of words! 

Just let me know if there is any tool,

Known for expressing heart’s deepest thoughts

Like a handwritten journal, so simple and encrypted

Meant to reveal though not all the secrets

Nicely wrapped with just a few words

Opening a different story with every word, like

Petals in a lotus flower. 

Quilling every emotion in each petal – with a different shade;

Reaping a different impact on different readers, 

Sprinkling the message based on their mind’s status.

Treading the path from a different angle 

Ultimately leading to my deepest thoughts

Venturing the twists and open secrets

Whilst showing the picture.. more like an

X-ray. As I searched along, I found one

Yes, a tool that satisfies all of my constraints,

Zestful and Warm – The one and only Poetry.

Creatively Messy

People say that the way you keep your things describe your nature and state of mind. So my room – the cupboards, my work desk and study depict the state of my mind?

Well, am not the Ms. Orderly-Perfectionist though. I like to keep things “creatively messy“. A term that I have invented to describe my own arrangement of things. 😉

Creatively Messy

The concept of keeping my room “creatively-messy” is quite alien to the rest of my family as they prefer to arrange things in the traditional order.. So only a like-minded person would understand what the term actually means.

Let me explain : Although every thing looks out of place, scattered and not in any particular order to the common mind; the things in the room that appears to be messy is actually in a unique order by itself! Yes, that’s called being “Creatively Messy“.

Many many times, I tried to follow a particular order – alphabetical, numerical, color code, and various other arrangement patterns, as I have always been told that orderliness will give clarity and save time. But on the contrary, the idea of orderliness meant chaos to me. And every single time I would get confused and search for a book/key/any object everywhere and never find it until I put things in the way they used to be, i.e. “Messy“. That’s when I realized, an order need not always be abcd..z or 1234..10; it can also be AEIOU.. or VIBGYOR.. or 135711… or 001010011100…!! It can also look so random yet so clear like the constellations Orion or Ursa! It can be anything!

In my opinion, as long as you are able to map where you put your things and if you’re able find them without any difficulty and without wasting time, it doesn’t really matter how you arrange them or scatter them.

Be Messy. Be Creative. Be Creatively Messy – is my motto. 😉

Do you agree? Oh! Btw, how many of you are creatively messy here? Do you keep things in the traditional order? Do you have your own way of arrangement? Share your opinions in the comment box below 🙂

~Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

Story Time With A Difference #2 : Use Things and Love People. Not Vice Versa!

How many times have you felt like you have been used by someone for their own selfish needs? You always thought they loved, but the truth is, they were using you like a tool to get their tasks done. How many times have you wished you were his iphone or you were her makeup kit so that she would love you too?

Here’s a story that reminds an important message :

Use Things and Love People. Not Vice Versa!

It was a pleasant evening, when a young and happy couple celebrated their fifth wedding anniversary. They enjoyed the sea breeze over a candle light dinner and walked barefoot, holding hands, along the sands of the beach..reminiscing all their adventures together in the past 5 years. On their way home, they stopped in their favorite spot and decided to exchange gifts.

The wife gifted her husband, his favorite book’s rare edition! He felt so special and overjoyed. After relishing the moment of joy over receiving such a precious gift, the man handed his wife a key.

Yes, a key to a brand new car worth a million dollars! The wife was speechless and overwhelmed by his choice of gift! He asked her to go for a ride on her new car. She was super excited that she hopped into it right away!

It hadn’t been even 10 minutes since she left, the man heard sirens blaring and ambulance vehicle rushing towards the same direction. Panic stricken, the man immediately rushed to the spot and noticed that the very same car had met with an accident and it was rammed, shapeless! It looked like a piece of junk in the middle of the road. Right next to the car, he saw his wife, standing, shocked, scared but safe. She had only a few bruises on her arms and forehead. But the million dollar car was crushed into rubble!

She stood there feeling utterly guilty over damaging such an expensive car within few minutes of buying it! She couldn’t even see her husband’s face. She was cursing herself for being so careless. But the man ran towards her, gave her a tight hug and said “Thank you for being safe. I love you. Not the car. Not the money. We can buy another vehicle. There’s never another you“..

THE END

The next time when your best friend or your loved one loses or damages your prized possession, an object that might mean a lot to you but can be bought by money; remember : You ‘love’ people and not the things. You only ‘use’ things, not people.

Hope you all had fun reading this week’s Story Time With A Difference. See you again next week on Story Time With A Difference!

Thank you for stopping by!

~ Yuvathi 🙂

Today In Short : #11 – The Annoying Hypocrites

Why do people have to be so fake? Recently, am being surrounded by many loud mouthed hypocrites and it’s super annoying!

Here is a sample of “annoying hypocrites” that I’ve witnessed in the past few days.

Today In Short : #11 - The Annoying Hypocrites
Today In Short : #11 – The Annoying Hypocrites

1. A guy talking about gender equality when he himself expects his girlfriend to be under his control. He does’t want her to spend time with her guy friends (who she knows since her childhood). He expects her to take his permission even to go out and spend a day with her girl friends as well. He believes that only men should go out for work while women should stay home and take care of the family.

What?! Aren’t we in the 21st century already?

2. A girl going to another country, and wearing her traditional clothes there and taking snaps saying “Being traditional.. am loving it.. *blush blush*”.  But wears all inappropriate clothes, when she is in her motherland.

Urgh! Is culture and tradition a piece of joke??

3. A preacher who justifies that her community and their God is the highest of all! She is a preacher, a person who is supposed to tell the rest of the world that we all are one, we all are humans! But there she is, justifying that people should not pray to other Gods because only their God takes people to heaven!!

Oh dear.., I wish I could tell her, “I don’t know about her God, their God, heaven etc, but I DO know what is humanity”

4. People who use humbleness as a tool for publicity. Awesome! Right? They know that people tend to like those who are humble. So they put on a fake act of humbleness. You may be wondering how that’s possible?! Humbleness is supposed to be sincere and honest… Yes, let me tell you, there are people like that, and I see them everyday.

Aaargh. Am fed up. 

The list could go on forever.. :-/ But the point is…

When in Rome, do as the Romans do.

Wear what you like, but make sure what you wear is appropriate according to the culture of the country you are in.

 Practice what you Preach

If you talk about the environment, go green first. Then post updates about “ozone layer depletion, melting of ice in the arctics, etc.”

If you talk about gender and religious equality, practice that first in your own home, with your family. Then talk how much ever you want in the public.

Have you met such people too? Feel free to share you experiences in the comment box below.

~ Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

The Confused Young Adult

Love In 40 Words..

I have been invited by 3 of my buddy bloggers : Randoms by a Random – Ameena, Amrit’s Blog, and Living the dream – Hargun Wahi  to write about love in 40 words : the condition being 10 lines with 4 words in each line.

So, here it is : Love in 40 Words. 🙂

Love In 40 Words..

Forgetting to be angry,

Forgiving the biggest blunder;

Smiling after a disaster,

Supporting after huge failure;

A shoulder to cry,

A hand to lift;

Beyond all materialistic pleasures,

Bound by strong emotions;

Relationships defined and undefined,

Remains one – Just Love…

~ Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

The Confused Young Adult

Guess: Who Am I? #4

Okay! Guess Who Am I? is back after almost a month now! The previous riddle received an overwhelming readership and response! I thank you all for the support. 🙂

The answer for Guess: Who Am I? #3  is “Waves

Yes! Many of of you guessed it right! But some of you were confused between a tide and a wave. Well, waves are dependent on the earth surface and wind while tides are determined by the gravitational pull of the moon. Hope that clarifies the confusion! For more details, Google it. 🙂

Here’s this week’s riddle. I’ve made it very easy as we have been away from riddles for a really long time! Hope you have fun deciphering this one! 🙂

Guess: Who Am I? #4

I come in all shapes, sizes and colors,

I vary from season to season.

I define a person’s career,

I depict people’s culture.

Many believe I mark their status;

For some am their presence’ signature,

While for many am a vital protection.

Ah! I don’t care what they think..

I just do my job of camouflaging..

Well, am running out of time,

Just Guess: Who I Am… 🙂

P.S: Please leave your answer in the comment box below. Hope this is quite easy to decipher. 🙂 I also hope you liked it!

~ Yuvathi 🙂

The Confused Young Adult

3Gether Forever..

Sometimes, a person you never thought would mean anything to you, becomes the person who makes your life beautiful, every minute memorable and every second precious. For me, it was two of them.

They changed almost everything! Every moment of fear into excitement. Every moment of sadness into a funny memory. Every festival into a grand celebration. All they did was spend some precious moments with me. They taught me how to laugh, gave me lovely surprises, confused me with their mischiefs and pranks, made me go mad and crazy with their nonsensical talks..They have always been my two pillars of support and strength.. My two adorably lovely Friends. Brothers. Colleagues. My Family. 

Essence Of Reminiscence - Week 4 - Random : 3Gether Forever
Essence Of Reminiscence – Week 4 – Random : 3Gether Forever

We called ourselves “3Gether Forever” because it was three of us! We are from 3 different states and each of us speak a different language. But it has never been a barrier. We were together only for few months, after which we moved to different places because of work.  The last day of separation hurt so much that I cried a river. Must I say a sea? That won’t be enough either..

Sometimes, the most beautiful moments bring you tears.. As I type this, my eyes are tearing up till the brim, waiting to burst out of the dams of my eyelids and cause a flood. It aches somewhere, is it my heart? my mind? or my brain? I do not know where..

Why do we cry when we think about the happy memories? We should laugh out loud just the way we laughed that day..right? But why can’t we?

Am a terrible communicator when it comes to personal relationships. I don’t know to call up my friends and talk. I don’t text either. But I remember them each and every day…and thank them in my heart for giving me such beautiful memories for a lifetime. For making my days bright and colorful, full of smiles and joy.

Am sure of the fact that even if we are miles away, we will still stay connected through our hearts…and they know I will always love them and cherish our bond…Forever and ever…

#3Gether_Forever

~ Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

In response to Essence Of Reminiscence : Week 4 – Random

Story Time With A Difference #1 : Watch Your Words!

How many times in your life have you said the right thing at the right time? Often? Seldom? Quite rarely?

Most of us are experts in messing even the simplest and best of situations into the most awkward, embarrassing and sickening moment by saying the wrong thing at the wrong time. The worst part is, it happens more so often when we are actually sober. :-/

So, here’s a tale which conveys an important message :

Sometimes, it is better to keep your mouth shut!

Once upon a time, 3 men from 3 different towns grew old and passed away from the material world after living a kind, humble and noble life. They were worshipped as the best of mankind in their respective towns for all the service they had done to their people.

For having lived a virtuous life, the chariots to heaven came down to earth to take these men. On their way up, they saw a frog sitting quietly on a tree, relaxing and enjoying the cool breeze. Suddenly a large snake slowly sneaked behind the frog and caught it in its mouth.

Looking at this scene in action, the man from the first town said “Aha! Look at that! What a wonderful catch! Silly old frog didn’t see that coming!”

Listening to the man’s comment, the dying frog was enraged and cursed him for being so heartless at the loss of his life! On being cursed by the frog, the man from town 1 was dropped down from the chariot of heaven.

Seeing this terrible turn of events, the man from town 2 became nervous and said “Oh poor frog! How mean and vicious of that snake to take the life of such a small being!”

Hearing this comment, the snake felt hurt and angry. It was his food, its prey and being called mean and vicious for having its meal made it really angry and the snake cursed the man. On being cursed by the snake, the man from town 2 was also dropped down from the chariot of heaven.

The man from town 3, who was the smartest among them, kept quiet throughout the entire journey. He supported neither the snake nor the frog. He chose to remain silent and made his way to the heaven.

THE END

One must know, when to speak and when not to. One should not stay quiet in the times of injustice and at the same time one should know when to remain quiet to get the best of results as well. 

Hope you all had fun reading this week’s Story Time With A Difference! This is the very first time I have tried to narrate a story. Please share your valuable feedback in the comment box below. See you again next week on Story Time With A Difference!

Thank you for stopping by!

~ Yuvathi ❤ 🙂