Why ? : Friend-zoning And Not Realizing The Obvious

This weekend I watched the TV series “The Flash” with my friend. In the series, the hero has a huge crush on his best friend and is in love with her since forever but he never gets a chance to confess because she doesn’t see the obvious and he gets friend-zoned (so badly). In the end, when he could no longer take it, he confesses his love for her when she is in a good relationship with a really nice guy! (how tragic!)

the flash

Late in the evening, when my friend and I went out for a walk, we were discussing, why does that happen? Why do girls, being the smartest (especially in this regard) become so dumb when it comes to their best friend? He asked me if we do it on purpose or does it happen just like that? Because it seems to be a universal concept that happens between most friends.

That, made me think. I have myself done the same blunder twice. Once in my early teens and once when I was in college. I never knew that my best friend liked me. Everybody around us knew about this. But I didn’t. It was like an open secret!

Am not a genius or researcher in this field but I could tell you what usually happens is that when we say “best friends” it remains just that. Very rarely do we think otherwise. Sometimes, it could be worse, the girl might see him more like a brother!

Why?? : Friend-zoning And Not Realizing The Obvious

When I got to know about my best friend, everything seemed so obvious! But until then I thought he really cared about me, he is the “bestest” friend I could ever find in this world, am so blessed, etc etc..

Most guys start out as good friends and eventually fall for the girl but it is not the same with all girls. Which is why we remain dumb, we don’t see it, until the guy tells it out loud.

If you are friend-zoned once, it is hard to get out of it. Sometimes you are trapped forever.

So here’s a piece of advice:

If you are a girl and if you have a guy best friend, please keep your ears wide open when your other friends give you a hint, and do take it, consider it. Don’t make the same blunder like the rest of the women-kind of the world!!

If you are a guy, then please make it clearly known to her. Don’t just bury your love and then cry when she finds a good guy herself. Don’t end up confessing at the wrong time when she is in a relationship with a nice guy. Sometimes it might workout, sometimes it would back fire.. but either way, it involves a lot of emotional turmoil. Don’t procrastinate!!

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 This blog is a collection of various stories, opinions on various aspects of life,  nostalgic anecdotes, lessons learnt in life and a bit of amateur primitive poetry!

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 Today In Short :  A series, that narrates some of the simplest yet inspiring and  thought provoking  incidences from daily life  

Story Time With A DifferenceA collection of inspiring tales for the grown ups!

 Weekly Photo ChallengeA-Z Blogging , 31 Day Blog Challenge , Writing 201 are  some of the activities/challenges that are published on a regular basis..

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~ Yuvathi ❤ 🙂        .

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Today In Short : #7 – 100+ Followers & Counting!

Every blogger’s dream is to reach their first 100 followers milestone. I started this blog on November 24, 2014 and it has been quite an exciting journey. I have written articles for various websites and blogging sites but I never had the time to start one of my own. Am glad I started this blog and now I’d like to take this as an opportunity to show my gratitude to all those who supported me. 🙂

I really didn’t expect to reach the 100+ followers-milestone so soon. Am so happy and overwhelmed by the love shown by fellow bloggers and I really enjoyed connecting with each and every one of you.

100 followers & counting

Thank You So Much!

Will update more interesting posts soon. 🙂 Stay tuned!

~Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

The Confused Young Adult

31 Day Blog Challenge : Day 1 – Introducing Me!

I was invited for this challenge by thenadlog. Thank you very much. Am really glad to be a part of it. 🙂

This 31 day blog challenge is an awesome way to introduce myself to all my readers and I hope during the process, this will let me know more about myself as well.

Day 1 : Introducing Me

Introducing Me!
Introducing Me!

Well, am an electronics engineer who loves music, gardening, literature, books and writing! Irony, but yes. That’s just me! I love to sit alone in my room, I visit the park every morning and ponder about various things, write poetry and read philosophy. But I really do hate loneliness.

Lonely and Alone are two totally different words. I prefer the latter a lot.

I have a bunch of really awesome friends. Some nerds, some funny and some totally crazy people that I love the most. They are like a part of my family. In fact I’m very bad in making friends but once I do, it is very hard to get rid of me. 😀 The bunch of friends that I mentioned before have been with me since I was 10 or 15 years old!

Am very difficult to be understood and very easily misunderstood.

I don’t know if it’s because of my lack of ability to talk and mingle with people or is it just because of my face that I tend to make a bad first impression. Am really thankful that the people around me gave me a second chance to make it right 🙂

Sarcasm is not my way

Frankly, I hate sarcasm. I don’t find it funny nor do I appreciate when people tend to make a sarcastic comment. It is just mean and I believe it is the most pathetic way to show one’s wit by putting the other down. It is like screaming for attention when nobody cares the least. I can make the most sarcastic comments when needed but I refrain, always. When anybody shares their piece of sarcasm to me, I give them a piece of “real smart-polite” response instead of an equally bad or even worse ‘mean’ comment.

Those are a few things about me. I find it really difficult to objectify “me”. But anyway, somehow I’ve managed to write it! Thank you for reading 🙂

Weekly Photo Challenge: Shadowed

 Shadowed

Sitting under the green shady trees,

Soaking myself in the cool breeze,

Listening to the chirps and melodies of the invisible birds,

That echoed my gratitude not just towards nature’s bounties

But also that “someone” who planted them as saplings;

For us to enjoy the bliss ..

To live and let live..

In response to weekly photo challenge : Shadowed

 ~ Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

The Confused Young Adult

A Crab Canon Poetry

A Crab-Canon Poetry is a technique in which a poem when read forward as well as backward would make sense, just like a palindrome.

Here the poem when read forward has a negative touch while in reverse has a positive touch. 🙂

This is the first time I have written something like this. Hope you like it. Please feel free to leave your valuable opinions in the comment box 🙂 

A Crab Canon Poetry
A Crab Canon Poetry

The Forward Version

She woke up; as the clock struck 6

And tried to remember where she is,

She began to wonder how she ended up in a place like this.

As she remembered being kidnapped and her memory was thin,

Fear struck her guts and the realization crept in;

She ran around in search of an exit,

The moment she discerned she was lost in a labyrinth;

With no way out, she knew she was doomed for good,

She wished it was a dream and cursed herself for being so stupid..

The Reverse Version

She wished it was a dream and cursed herself for being so stupid..

With no way out, she knew she was doomed for good,

The moment she discerned she was lost in a labyrinth;

She ran around in search of an exit,

Fear struck her guts and the realization crept in;

As she remembered being kidnapped and her memory was thin,

She began to wonder how she ended up in a place like this.

And tried to remember where she is,

She woke up; as the clock struck 6

~ Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

The Confused Young Adult

The Measure Of Love : Ma..

When I started this blog, I told myself I shall never ever write about “mother“. That is one word, that can make me emotional from some place so deep in my heart that can never be explained by any biological studies, scientific laws or mathematical theorems. I am sure that all alphabets and all the words of the known and unknown languages to mankind would not be enough to explain my respect, love and all my emotions put together when I say the word “ma“.

I hope someday I will be so verbally equipped than the inventor of languages and words such that I could explain all that and put it in words understandable for fellow human beings.

Yet, when I found the challenge to write about a random Google search about a random word and find the 11th image and write about it for the daily prompt called : Image Search;

my head said “mother” and consciously or not, my hand typed it and bam! I saw this beautiful picture… measure of love: ma

If I were asked to find a way to measure love and give its SI units, I would say “Ma”..

~Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

The Confused Young Adult

Today In Short : #6 When I Forgot How To Laugh..

Is it possible? Can someone really forget how to laugh? I think I did., it had been long, really very long since I laughed out loud..

When you grow up, you take too many things into your head, that you stop enjoying little things in life..

Known for my non-stop laughter, enthusiasm, optimism and energy., it is very surprising to know that I actually forgot how to laugh. Life has been terrible lately, and those terrible incidents have changed me so much! I can’t believe it myself! But of course, my family and friends are the best support system I could ever ask for. Sadly, most of them have moved to different states and am very badly in need of a change of job.

I’ve never ever in my life had a pessimistic thought about anything! But now, whenever I think of something nice, my mind immediately says “hah, as if this is gonna work..” and once again I go “My Goodness! Was that me??” If you had read my previous post “Queen Of Procrastination’s New Year Resolution“, you would know how this negative attitude brought me down! Thankfully, am working on it, and the process is a lot better 🙂

I don’t procrastinate, I do everything on time these days!! I have taken up a few interesting activities, joined a few classes to learn something new, this blog is also one of those nice activities. 🙂 Although I have done and still am doing a lot of repair work, trying to bring all the pieces together; the ones that were shattered in 2014, I really felt scared.

The pessimist pops up every now and then.  What if it doesn’t work? Will I still be able to laugh again? Can I become what I wanted to become?

When I Forgot How To Laugh

At that very moment, when I felt like a loser, totally lost in my own misery and drowned in my flood of self pity..my best friend called and asked me “how are you?”. He said he missed talking to me and that we should meet over the weekend. Just when I felt lonely, broken and terrible, a best friend says he actually misses me. How wonderful is that? He had no idea that I was so upset, but he cracked too many jokes, made me laugh for half an hour without a break! He is one of the most humorous guys I’ve known and said he has absolutely no idea what he’s doing at work! well, I said “me too!” 😀 We shared all the stupid jokes that we would never tell anybody else, laughed at our own blunders. We laughed until our stomachs ached so hard!

The world does work in miraculous ways 🙂

I must tell you, I just can’t wait to meet my friend! I believe, I can laugh. I can make it right. Everything would work and the best efforts never go wasted.. In my mind, after that awesome chat, I said “Thank You my pal, for awakening the optimist sleeping within me and making me believe in myself.” 🙂

A friend in need is a friend indeed!

This post also happens to be my response to a daily prompt : A Friend in Need 🙂

The Bad Job Interview

The Bad Job Interview

You see me just for few minutes,

Judge me with all those random questions. 

You weigh my resume and the reference, 

My grades and certificates talk for themselves. 

Your first one is “say something about yourself”. 

And that’s how I dig a pit to bury myself. 

You crush my confidence; pull out my brains,

Make me run through my knowledge’s maze. 

You shoot one question after another,

When I think I can’t go any further.

I try my best to just get it right,

But you nail me down with some trivial fact.

You look up and down, and scratch your head, 

And stare at me like am a murder suspect. 

After all the hardships my brain went through, 

You grin; that tells me “Better Luck Next Time, We Don’t Want You”.

~Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

The Confused Young Adult  

Weekly Photo Challenge : New

Well, the challenge for this week was to post a picture that depicts something “New“. Something new about the picture here is my new found interest in using a feature called “camera” in my mobile phone.

Am not a photography enthusiast but a voice in my head told me I should learn to capture some of the beautiful moments on a camera too, to create a collection of memories to recollect a decade later and say..”those were the days…” 🙂

It was a journey that determined my life and my future (about which I will write someday), that I wanted to have a souvenir to remember this day, something to depict the turbulence and turmoil that was rocking my head.

As the sun shown brightly through the trees, shining on the waters beneath,

I knew nature was telling me something, 

That I too could shine and rise through those thorns and shades.

So, here is my very first snap, that I took from a train moving at a speed of about 100 km/h, (that explains the lack of clarity I suppose, well, I used the camera on my mobile phone!)

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So that’s something new that I’ve started this year…

Professional photographers and enthusiasts, please excuse me. 🙂

~Yuvathi ❤ 🙂

The Confused Young Adult