Yes, it is tiresome.. We all say to ourselves., yet we never stop! There are many such things that make us feel small and exhausted but we believe we don’t have a choice; we succumb to them. But there is One thing that almost all of us are ‘tired’ of :
Doing Things That Others Expect Us To Do and Not Something That We Really Want To
The reason behind this? To make people like us, to impress others and to make others happy by sacrificing our own basic needs, wishes and desires.
Few years ago, I was a very different person. Every time I walked into a crowded hall, I would wonder if people really liked me. I used to take every word seriously; what people thought about me mattered a lot to me than anything else. Back then, I didn’t know that…
You can’t impress others unless you are confident about yourself!
I tried to join the clubs the others joined because I wanted to mingle with the pack! I wore similar clothes, worked hard, helped everyone with everything they asked for. I didn’t mind doing anything to help others. Firstly because it made me feel good, but later on I did because people expected me to. Well, people were literally using me to do their assignments, projects, other tasks and stuff. People took me for granted and I was not credited for anything I ever did. Later their opinions varied and what one wanted me to do was not liked by the other and vice versa. I was pulled in different directions by different people.
The expectations grew more and more and I never had the time to do what I really wanted to. In fact, I was not in the pack, I was just being used. I was too naive to know and understand. I was an idiot! But when I realized, I backed out. I learnt to say No. People don’t like to lose such an idiot. Do they? Of course they didn’t want to. The worst case – people started to backbite and hate me. There were too many gossips, too many jokes. I was ‘bullied’ wherever I went.
I was left alone, with none by my side to help me out. I thought it is better to be alone than in a bad company!
Well, that was few years ago. But am glad, I realized quite early. Now, I am a lot stronger person with my own lovely bunch of friends who love me for what I am. I put my foot down whenever I feel like I should. I do whatever my heart says right because I know my loved ones would support me and guide me in the right path. I do something because I really want to and not because somebody wants me to. Oh! Am so glad 🙂
All these bitter experiences taught me one important thing:
Do what your heart says. Not otherwise.
Still I have my moments, even now at times I feel insecure but whenever I do, I reassure myself “It’s alright. It’s okay. People always have something to say”
The point is, there are so many people out there, worrying about their looks, clothes, status, habits, tastes..feeling vulnerable and insecure about every single aspect of their life. Some are unable to pursue their dreams while some don’t even have the liberty to take a break. They are frustrated, exhausted while some are innocent and naive like I was. I wish I could tell them all..
“It’s alright. It’s okay. People always have something to say. You don’t have to worry at all. You are awesome being yourself.” 🙂
P.S. I must tell you, I was nervous before publishing this because I have never made such a personal blog post before. Writing this blog made me feel really very good. I wish it reaches the right people at the right time. 🙂